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    do you have sexual chemistry with your duals?

    is it immediate or gradual?

    what sparks it?

    does anyone here have trouble being attracted sexually to their duals?

    why? etc
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    From experience, I have strong sexual chemistry with EIE women that is felt within seconds of first talking to them. This occurs with no other type, but the closest would be IEI followed by other LSIs.

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    I have yet to be physically attracted to a dual.

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    Immediate sexual chemistry... or perhaps I should say compatibility. Not with all of them, but a heck of a lot.

    I met a nice LSE on a plane last week. We did Sudoku together and he kept finding ways to touch me that didn't give me the creeps. A silly example, true, but that sort of immediate compatibility just doesn't happen with other types.

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    If I find them attractive, then yes. SLE's have always been the sexiest type. If they look like Mike Tyson, then helltothemotherfucking no.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    If I find them attractive, then yes. SLE's have always been the sexiest type. If they look like Mike Tyson, then helltothemotherfucking no.
    LSIs are sexier.












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    Duality isn't instant attraction; it's not a hormone bath of infatuation, it comes slowly and quietly, but it's long lasting, solid and comfortable for both parties. It's not uncommon that duals are either not very attracted to one another or that they don't find each other the most comfortable to be around at first, or that they are intimidated by one another, or that they don't display favorable mannerisms. Most of the time, it has absence or understated sexual chemistry. It's just the rough surface to a really great inside part, but most people don't see the inside, over looking it for another relational type that looks much more tempting, but these relations are disguised, to say the least.


    INFj's as a rule, are very shy, reserved and don't often flirt and give their duals that smile and tease to initiate a chase. We don't tease people either and not every dual understands socionics well enough to understand this nature of ours.

    Our duals often fall for the provocative and sexual, fun, flirty, smiling, humorous, SEE and SEI or even their conflictor type, IEI and IEE; well, let's say, everyone except for us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    Duality isn't instant attraction; it's not a hormone bath of infatuation, it comes slowly and quietly, but it's long lasting, solid and comfortable for both parties. It's not uncommon that duals are either not very attracted to one another or that they don't find each other the most comfortable to be around at first, or that they are intimidated by one another, or that they don't display favorable mannerisms. Most of the time, it has absence or understated sexual chemistry. It's just the rough surface to a really great inside part, but most people don't see the inside, over looking it for another relational type that looks much more tempting, but these relations are disguised, to say the least.


    INFj's as a rule, are very shy, reserved and don't often flirt and give their duals that smile and tease to initiate a chase. We don't tease people either and not every dual understands socionics well enough to understand this nature of ours.

    Our duals often fall for the provocative and sexual, fun, flirty, smiling, humorous, SEE and SEI or even their conflictor type, IEI and IEE; well, let's say, everyone except for us.
    Personal experience? Maybe you are doing something wrong? Maybe you are an exception but not a rule?
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    I broke up with my dual because of a lack of sexual chemistry. I don't think duality necessitates sexual chemistry in the same way that chemistry doesn't necessitate duality. While I'll admit to being quite drawn to my duals, I wouldn't say that there's an immediate chemistry.
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    Isn't the sensor supposed to take the initiative and initiate cuddling. When I touch and cuddle with my dual she reacts in a very positive way. Her reaction makes me want cuddle with her even more etc. etc. And the chemistry wheel is rolling. She encourages me to be sensual. She is actually not that sensual herself, but very receptive to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sarinana View Post
    Personal experience? Maybe you are doing something wrong? Maybe you are an exception but not a rule?
    That's the way things are unfortunately.


    Quote Originally Posted by Nowisthetime View Post
    Isn't the sensor supposed to take the initiative and initiate cuddling. When I touch and cuddle with my dual she reacts in a very positive way. Her reaction makes me want cuddle with her even more etc. etc. And the chemistry wheel is rolling. She encourages me to be sensual. She is actually not that sensual herself, but very receptive to it.


    Yes; that's why we like sensory types.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vero View Post
    I broke up with my dual because of a lack of sexual chemistry. I don't think duality necessitates sexual chemistry in the same way that chemistry doesn't necessitate duality. While I'll admit to being quite drawn to my duals, I wouldn't say that there's an immediate chemistry.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sarinana View Post
    Have you heard of pheromones?
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    Reagardless, I didn't deny the existence of sexual chemistry. I said that I don't think that sexual chemistry is necessarily tied to duality. You can have sexual chemistry with someone who isn't your dual and you can not have chemistry with people who are your dual. These are both quite plausible scenarios, imo.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vero View Post
    I broke up with my dual because of a lack of sexual chemistry. I don't think duality necessitates sexual chemistry in the same way that chemistry doesn't necessitate duality. While I'll admit to being quite drawn to my duals, I wouldn't say that there's an immediate chemistry.
    That's why you have your semi-duals.
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    I don't think it's so much in the sense of attraction, Vero, more that your Dual's physicality just lines up really, really fantastically with yours. This has been my experience.

    I mean, you're with your semi-Dual, yes? Would you say that's roughly the case?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vero View Post
    I broke up with my dual because of a lack of sexual chemistry. I don't think duality necessitates sexual chemistry in the same way that chemistry doesn't necessitate duality. While I'll admit to being quite drawn to my duals, I wouldn't say that there's an immediate chemistry.
    I think subtype and enneagram come into play too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    Our duals often fall for the provocative and sexual, fun, flirty, smiling, humorous, SEE and SEI or even their conflictor type, IEI and IEE; well, let's say, everyone except for us.
    Not true. I know of two LSEs who are with EIIs and one who is with an SEE. I am not interested in an outgoing -valuer. I am attracted to need.

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    Wowza is it strong. Just seeing them move around or observing them interact with people and fidget or talking to them/working on a project with them. I just instinctively know about them and how their bodies relate to the world. I love it.
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    - do you have sexual chemistry with your duals?
    sometimes

    - is it immediate or gradual?
    gradual, I find it difficult to be attracted to anyone immediately dual or no dual

    - what sparks it?
    if i had to narrow it down, their use of their creative function

    - does anyone here have trouble being attracted sexually to their duals? why?
    typically because they aren't transmitting their creative function, for some reasons mirages have less problem getting it across, probably because we end up talking so much with mirage relations while with duals I find it more difficult to have continuous conversation

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    Quote Originally Posted by siuntal View Post
    gradual, I find it difficult to be attracted to anyone immediately dual or no dual
    I'm the same way.
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    causing boners and causing limps? Well, maybe. I don't know, but I have a hard time seeing somebody getting wet over ...

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    LSI's aren't sexier they just act like they are. And you can tell they're actually uptight and not a sensual person, just physically confident. To me the IJ always =borefest. I mean that dudes doing an Old spice commericial...yawn.

    If you don't think the hormone bath is real...maybe you can't smell or something...wtf. It can be totally overpowering. Make you act retarted etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timeless View Post
    causing boners and causing limps? Well, maybe. I don't know, but I have a hard time seeing somebody getting wet over ...

    That's because IXFj's would never be explicit about how they really feel about .

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    Quote Originally Posted by siuntal View Post
    - do you have sexual chemistry with your duals?
    sometimes
    - is it immediate or gradual?
    gradual, I find it difficult to be attracted to anyone immediately dual or no dual
    Really? That's hard for me to indentify with. It's such an immediate thing for me. I know within seconds whether i'm sexually attracted to them or not. If they don't spark the attraction in those seconds, it's hardly ever sparked no matter how long i'm near them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    Really? That's hard for me to indentify with. It's such an immediate thing for me. I know within seconds whether i'm sexually attracted to them or not. If they don't spark the attraction in those seconds, it's hardly ever sparked no matter how long i'm near them.
    Same.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    That's because IXFj's would never be explicit about how they really feel about .


    So implicit, it's basically explicit, at least to Te egos. But both want it in different yet similar ways.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jughead View Post
    LSI's aren't sexier they just act like they are. And you can tell they're actually uptight and not a sensual person, just physically confident. To me the IJ always =borefest. I mean that dudes doing an Old spice commericial...yawn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by discojoe View Post
    From experience, I have strong sexual chemistry with EIE women that is felt within seconds of first talking to them. This occurs with no other type, but the closest would be IEI followed by other LSIs.
    yup.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    Really? That's hard for me to indentify with. It's such an immediate thing for me. I know within seconds whether i'm sexually attracted to them or not. If they don't spark the attraction in those seconds, it's hardly ever sparked no matter how long i'm near them.
    yeah it's because people seem almost as if transparent to me :/ ... I got very weak sensory function so just seeing somebody's face and body doesn't generate any reaction in my mind thus physical attraction isn't easy to spark ... it is just such low priority for me ... I can kind of aesthetically appreciate people but my sex drive isn't connected to this at all

    ethical sub IEI I have read value physical looks more

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    Quote Originally Posted by siuntal View Post
    yeah it's because people seem almost as if transparent to me :/ ... I got very weak sensory function so just seeing somebody's face and body doesn't generate any reaction in my mind thus physical attraction isn't easy to spark ... it is just such low priority for me ... I can kind of aesthetically appreciate people but my sex drive isn't connected to this at all

    ethical sub IEI I have read value physical looks more
    To me it's not necessarily all about physical appearance (though, that helps). It's mostly about chemistry & confidence.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    To me it's not necessarily all about physical appearance (though, that helps). It's mostly about chemistry & confidence.
    Same. I think I'm Ni sub.

    I'm generally attracted to people who:
    - "demand" your attention/reaction
    - aren't affected by the opinion of others, let criticism slide off their back
    - come across as slightly arrogant/cocky

    and I think in general, SLEs have these traits.
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