Okay, so, I know that I am E4w3, sx/so, tritype 4-7-9 (or possibly 4-9-7). What I want to know now is, what do I do with this?
I know what to do with socionics. I observe behavior patterns and use socionics-related information to give me hints as to what I can try to improve social interactions. If I feel a vague "hmmm, I think I can relax and let my guard down around this person" vibe, socionics encourages me to go for it. If I feel a vague, "oh, god, me and this person just aren't going to get along" vibe, socionics lets me off the hook and makes me feel like I don't absolutely have to get on perfectly with everybody. Great. Useful. Interesting.
But what do I do with enneagram? Theoretically it's good for personal development, but... eh, I don't feel like it helps me much to say "stop focusing on your fantasies about yourself and see yourself clearly." I mean, I essentially consist of my fantasies about myself, and I feel like any attempt to define myself "clearly" is reductionist. And what about this 3-wing thing? What does that mean I should do? Should I stop trying to be successful because I'm just using success as a way to not focus on the issues with my soul or whatever? Instinctual variants? Tritype?
I read all these enneagram descriptions, and I get the ideas. I can find the ones that fit me quite easily. But I don't feel like I get anything out of them beyond a series of numbers I can use to describe myself. Whoop-de-doo.
So, 16types friends, tell me how to use the enneagram to actually be helpful to my life. Also, if you can point me towards some resources that go deeper into the enneagram, if there are theoretical underpinnings or just anything that goes beyond regular boring type descriptions, that would be most appreciated.