I thought it was noble of me. My ILE ex was horrified. I think this is a GAMMA and ALPHA values conflict.
He suggested I never marry (in front of everyone at my job) and sd:"Poor guy.Forgets his keys once and nanashi's out looking for the next young thing." He was angry for like an hour, which is would be weird to me (because we'd been broken up for 6 months), but I realized it's not about me leaving him in the future necessarily (it's not personal). It's more to do with what I'm saying about all marriages--more Fe.
He brought up the line "for better for worse, in sickness and in health," and I countered with the fact that some instances exist in which the partner is not affecting your life in positive way that most of us see leaving as fine in: they sexually abuse children, murder, or cheat on you. not everyone would leave. but many can understand leaving. If we can leave when the person's choosing these things and harming our social position and breaking our trust (dragging us into their child abuse/murder cover ups or giving away affection and focus they promised us to someone else), why can't we leave when they've abandoned us through no fault of their own choosing? I see my future spouse being sweetly loyal to someone who doctors assure him doesn't have a clue who he is--maybe is scared by him--and he's emotionally and mentally and physically alone. It's breaking my heart. I think it ignores the needs of the fit partner if they are loyal to me. Why can't they realize I'm different? I don't provide the same things for him. Our relationship has changed. He can remain a caring friend/relative and financial supporter and advocate, but I want him to feel intentional love from someone else.