I was lonely so I made a profile on a dating site. I used a lot of humor spiced with some more serious stuff about myself, but not letting the serous stuff sound too serious. I wrote the text in a light way with flow. A lot of attention to how the words sound. I put in some links to funny music. I tried to make it different from other profiles.
The first girl who answered was ESTp. We went for a walk and that was it. Decided we should not meet again. And besides, she thought I was way too nice and humble.
The second girl was INFp. Very charming, interesting, attractive. I felt we had something in common, but I never felt like calling her again. I kind of feel sad about this.
Then the third girl. We went for a coffee and a walk. It felt really good. I thought there was something close to duality between us but I was not sure. I thought she might be a feeler after all.
After meeting her again I am sure that she in fact is ILE. On our second date we suddenly seemed too different to be able to connect at all, and she seemed a little skeptical about my ability to seduce her, but after a while we got past that. This is the first time in my life I'm being intimate with a dual. (I have dual friends, though). I can't really compare it to anything. It's like things are taken to another level. I don't know about my emotions for her yet. But it's ridiculous how easy it is to be with her. It's like I have to remind myself, "hey, I can actually be myself here" (whatever that means). Well, let's see what happens.
Anyway, I'm happy this happened. You guys in this forum encouraged me by sharing your experiences of dual relationships.
About my dating profile: I've been thinking about how I can attract ILEs on dating sites. I figured that I should mix in some Ne stuff, so that they can identify. (change of perspective, original ideas etc.), and also focus on things we have in common, and then some pure SEI stuff.