I used Rick's socionics site and this helped a lot!
I definitely am not focused on "'external self-expression.' This is a striving to express externally the urges, passions, and desires one experiences internally. EIEs like to continually draw attention to themselves by making unexpected, abrubt statements, using unusual words or intonations, developing a striking outward appearance, and otherwise sticking out of the 'dull crowd'."
"EIEs are as much or more interested in their image and others' emotional response to them as in the productivity of their work itself. They strive to be stimulating, captivating, and riveting in whatever they do. They have a great need to evoke an emotional response in other people."
Not me either-I do not care about image, I am all about my product and hard work! I do not need admiration from others, though I do enjoy when a respected teacher or someone in the field gives me credit for doing something well, but I do not do things well because I get recognition, I do it because it is in me to do so!
One of the members in the forum had suggested EIE for a number of different reasons. She thought I was a beta because I put people in their place when they needed to be...umm but I did it for protection and not just because. I am very tolerant with people, but when they cross a line such as being malicious or disrespecting me multiple times, I will not let them to continue to hurt me like that.
"EIEs reject the idea of basing their lives on "being productive, rational, and useful," choosing instead to do as their passions dictate."
This is not me either!
I think that I am Fi-valuing. I do not place high value on outward displays of emotion. They are unnecessary. I like to do it for fun, so they usually do not mean anything to me at all. I mean obviously if I get mad or something and I am in the company of my dad, mom, or sister, I will express anger and stuff, but when I am having a good time, I do not need to express an emotion.
"This focus on self-expression stimulates others around them to also be more expressive and focused on what they are feeling. The EIE usually leads in this process, having the richest arsenal of feelings and means of expressing them."
No, I really do focus on trying to be more rational. I mean, I hate it when others are emotionless and when I mean emotionless, I mean lacking the concern and care for others in a deep way. But when I am dealing with a communication problem or sorting out problems within groups of people and such, I try to be logical, fair, and level headed (even tempered) so we can fix the problems and not offend anyone.
Are you Si-valuing or Se-valuing?
I think that I am Si-valuing. I enjoy the little pleasures in life like the way a massage makes my body feel, the way music gets me going (I am very picky with music), the way stretching makes me feel-these things calm me down and take my mind off of everything else that I am thinking about.
I cannot seem to find my dual anywhere (SLI), so I find that things like these make me feel the way my dual would. I must admit, I do enjoy a little bit of marijuana, too when I am not in school (like now) because it gets me in such a relaxed state of mind and body. I do not get so worried when I am in big groups of people or anything.
I really think that I am IEE! I was so worried!
Delta Delta Delta! I know this for sure! I enjoy small groups and tend to be more one-on-one. The biggest groups that I like are no more than 6 and if I do not know certain members in the group, I am still a little awkward, though I do try to mingle and carry on-it is very forced, but done in a nice way because I do not want them to feel that they are not liked.
When I am in a setting with good music and if I know say 1 person extremely well (my sister-she eases me a bit, not her type, but her personally), 1 person well (and I feel comfortable with her), 1 person fairly well (and I feel comfortable with her, too), and then there are 2 people that I don't really know, but don't find threatening or mean, than I am fine...It is still awkward, but music makes me happy and eases me SO MUCH.
My ideal gathering would be relaxed in my own home with close friends, good music, maybe a little bit of alcohol to mellow everyone out (never trashed! NEVER NEVER NEVER. it ruins the good feeling), a good movie, and some good laughs, oh oh and maybe some food if anyone gets hungry :]
I am elderly, hands down! I am so much more comfortable with older people than I am my own age! hahaha I am SO uncomfortable around people my own age. I definitely have to warm up to them. I feel very old and I always have and this made it hard fitting in at school. I just did not understand why people my age acted the way they acted, and I still don't a lot of the time! haha I have been told by a yoga instructor that I am an old soul who has been reincarnated several times before, I was told by my child psych professor that I am wise, and I was always told that I was way mature for my age. (The only reason why I am telling you this last part is that I don't just think that I have an elderly mindset, but that others see it, too!
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Intellectual conversations!!!!!!! oh oh and fixing the problems of the world and seeing the problems of the world. Yes yes yes!!!! that is so me! It is very hard for me to talk about nothing!
Oh oh and I LOVE peace and quiet! I always wish that I lived amongst the trees in a forest and not in a suburb...I mean, don't get me wrong, I am still fun!! I would enjoy going to a big city sometimes and site seeing, going to galleries, going to small shows, umm walking around the city amidst the bustling people, BUT in my everyday life, I do enjoy peace and quiet. I hate the cars rushing by, and no plant life anywhere...no beauty! I like the time of day when nobody is really out and I can be in my own thoughts!
Dry intellectual discussions are awesome! Me and a former friend-like literally our whole relationship was all about that...until it became something more and then we had some fun, too...hahaha what I am getting at, is that I do enjoy intellectual discussions, but I also enjoy breaking it up with some silliness and some fun and teasing and such. I like variety, but over all, I am serious minded (but if I read and do a lot more of serious thinking on my own and then discussed what I have learned with someone who is close to me, then my conversations with others tends to be more light hearted).
Thank you thank you thank you! I was so worried that I was not an IEE, but I really feel that I am!
I am worried as to why I was thought to be EIE, but maybe it was because I stated that I was IEE with too much confidence or something?