So ive known this guy for over a year now and we are good friends. We do our own thing but when we catch up we have a good time. He is younger than me and often asks advice about his work / relationships. He is struggling at work in what appears to be an Fe heavy environment, and he is expected to use it too. Anyway, he has been with quite a few girls since ive known him but i did always wonder on some level. He has one of those high pitched voices that ive noticed in gay people for some reason. He calls me cute and kind of jokingly flirted (thats what i assumed anyway). I have other friends that have done the same. So about 1 month ago he was in my room and he said "I think im gay". In a really joking and light hearted way. He said "what would you do if i was gay?". I said, "I wouldn't do anything that would be fine". He said "what would you do if i hit on you?". I said, "I wouldn't respond because im not gay".
So about two days later i asked him to see a movie. LOLOL i just wanted to see Kick ass but i might have confused him. He said he would go but shot me down 3 days in a row, so i saw it with someone else. Since then, i haven't spoken to him and he is treating me a little strangely. He has told me many times before that he subscribes to the idea of "treat them mean to keep them keen". Ive explained to him i think that idea is totally retarded but i think he might be trying to treat me mean to keep me keen or something. The whole situation is quite humorous to me actually. We have a mutual LSE friend who calls him a gay cun% all the time and i dont know if hes joking or he senses something too.
I spoke to a gay IEI i work with and he said he doesn't think bisexuals exist. lol. I didn't think gay people would be attracted to someone who wasn't gay for some reason. If i find out a girl is a lesbian it puts me off quite quick. The problem is how i treat guys. I can never really break the barrier with girls, but i tend to draw my friends in very very close. I tend to enjoy having a close relationship with everyone i care about but this time its caused a problem haha. I think im just going to ask him if he is gay as the poor guy might be really struggling with it.
Anyone know a gay ENFp?