*Adapted from the stages of duality as discussed in this thread. It's a bit exaggerated in parts [to mirror the original article I adapted it from]. I don't know how accurate this will be/how much it will match up w others' experience of conflict relations, so I'm interested in getting people's input...
1. Each person sees the other as attractive; each thinks of the other as interesting and with impressive abilities.
2. As the two interact, they act in the way that is most natural for them [and the way that their dual subconsciously expects and responds positively to], but with surprising difficulties. Something seems to be coming between the two of them that causes misunderstandings, miscommunications, and general frustration [it is especially disappointing since original hopes were high for positive relations; this person seemed to promising as a companion].
3. Despite the best intentions and hopes of each, a sensation of danger appears for both conflictors. Each may observe this but tries to write it off as only in their heads. Instead of backing away, the conflictors [because they are thinking of the original attraction they felt and trying to recapture it] may move towards each other in an attempt to establish positive relations with one another. Eventually, though, it becomes obvious and cannot be denied any longer. A sensation of discomfort and irritation arises.
4. Both conflictors begin to feel simultaneously and equally the “impossibility” of being together in close contact without misunderstandings even for a short time. Still, there may be moments of fun and satisfaction, and so the conflictors may each decide to persevere in the hopes that things will turn around.
5. Both conflictors feel something like an internal disappointment and possibly disgust, that weighs down the soul. The frown on the face appears like a quiet grimace of irritation and disapproval.
6. Little by little, both conflictors begin to feel, if they have not already, the realization that they cannot get along well if in close contact. If persons are romantically involved, then this is really the beginning of the end for the relationship.
7. The disruption of conflictors’ energy. This phenomenon appears naturally: the conflictors can just to be together, just sitting close together sometimes even without touching each other, and this sensation arises.
8. This is most interesting stage. Conflictors cannot describe their feelings. Each feels so uncomfortable, so at ill ease, it is as if each feels nothing good at all when in the company of the conflictor.