Today, someone brought to my attention why duals don't attract one another.
Differences is functions between dual types make each look odd to the other. For example the characteristic empathetic, open, and easily talkative nature of INFj woman may look to an ESTj mate as invitation for other men to sleep with her. These gestures of empathetic nature of INFj character and their need to speak to others and help them can be construed for a lot of the wrong signs which are not appealing for the ESTj male at first glance. Seemingly immodest, the ESTj will hesitate to approach such a person for a long term interaction. Getting to know one another and stepping past the first glance will allow duals to get to know their "true" selves intimately and understand they truly are made for one another.
INFj's are openly communicative even with people who's intentions are not honorable because they love all people and see the good intentions of others first. Because they do not make outright comments like "You will have to try harder then that to sleep with me", because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, they don't look like an attractive person to their dual.
Airborne did state that he gets upset that the girl, the one I typed as INFj, speaks to any person who he thinks are out to have sex with her. INFj character is such that they will not state outwardly that as Minde said to Airborne that it will take him a lot harder to get to sleep with her. Please observe from their interaction how it is different from the one INFj would give out at first glance....
Originally Posted by Airborne
Thank you for your point here Maritsa. I see there is some disagreement among members on Minde´s type.
Do I see some jealousy here Maritsa? Don´t be worried honey, I and Minde... it was just a one-night stand. It won´t last long because she´s ISFP. So don´t worry my dear. lol.
It wasn't even that. You'd have to work a lot harder to get me than just show up, call yourself an ESTj, and post a few times. And I definitely don't go as easy as one night stands.
INFj will not say this outright because they don't want to hurt their approacher's feelings.
For these reasons, other types sound more attracting to ESTj then their own dual until they get to know them better.
Best way to attract your duals is to learn and understand your outside behaviors and what impressions they are making on onlookers.
Conflictor's easily attract one another because they beg or ask for functions of one another that is seemingly easy to provide but in the long run these constant providing begins to wear on the individual and establishes conflicts.