Hi, I'm new.
I've been following this forum for a while and wanted to join. I'll write something about myself.
2 years ago I dicovered MBTI
1 year ago I discovered Socionics
Then I discovered Gulenko's subtypes
My self typing is SEI, I think my subtype is N (Ti, Fi) in the DCNH system.
My ultimate goal is to forget about psychology. Or... I dont know. As some people on this forum has stated in the past: socionics can fuck up your mind. I see my interest in personality typology as a temporary substitute for a healthy identity (I'm just referring to myself here, really).
I sometimes get the feeling that socionics is something that I shouldnt know. That certain things are best to remain hidden.
But that doesnt mean that it isnt amazing. I mean, I could never imagine that this kind of information about people and relationships actually existed! Now things that happened in the past, feelings I've had in relationships or when meeting people suddenly make sense.
I usually try to type people I meet. In a kind of impressionistic way, making a visual synthesis of all people I've typed previously and comparing it. I dont think of this explicitly when I'm doing it but that's how I would describe the process from a distance. But of course other things also: facts, career, opinions, behaviour etc. It can take a long time for me to type someone accurately. But - sometimes it is fast.
I sometimes feel like the only thing I'm REALLY good at is being nice and pleasant.
People can see me as nice, humble, interesting, reliable and smart. I'm quite good at giving a good impression.
But I also struggle to get attention. I can be invisible. Then I try to force connection with someone, but it doesnt work.
I can relate to what Maritsa33 wrote in one post in connection with S/N: "There are types who already have philosophy in their minds and types who need to take philosophy classes to get philosophy."
I'm one of those who need to take philosophy classes, I've done that. (that was a long time ago). At some point when I started typing myself in MBTI I wanted to see myself as intuitive. But I'm not, not in socionics either.
If I'm interested in something I want to gather as much facts about it as possible before I feel that I can understand it. But I can also be quite impressionistic about things.
My best friend since childhood is my activator (LII), I also have some dual friends (ILE), but they are not as close, but very easy to be with. I have one close SEI friend. I have never experienced duality in a romantic relationship, but I've been on a couple of dates whith a dual and it was amazing. It felt like... nothing! Lately I've been in a relationship with an EII (benefactor).
I hope this introduction didnt get too long. I have to end this in a SEI manner with some cool music because all these words are starting to annoy me very much (and this music is really worth listening to). Here it is and nice to meet you! And dont be too harsh, pleeeeeeease!