VI MY DAD AND STEPMOM
Last edited by Morcheeba; 03-19-2010 at 01:59 AM.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
This is my fatass stepmom, (though I've never called her by anything other than her name).
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
Stepmom looks like ESTp and your dad is ISTp or ESFp
lady #101 is ISTp
lady #102 looks like ISTp
lady #103 is ESFp
How long have they been married?
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
They've been married for about 13 yrs. I would agree about my stepmom, though I thought she might be SEE, (haven't seen either of them for a few years.) My dad is very passive and is basically controlled by my stepmom, it's ridiculous how much she wears the pants!Originally Posted by Maritsa33
My dad is very subdued in alot of ways, has never really talked to much about his feelings towards me or anyone else for that matter, so we've had somewhat of a strained relationship.
I know my dad isn't happy in the relationship, he cheated a few years ago, but honestly I think he needs someone to control him, so she is very good for that.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
Controlling was the next thing I was going to ask about her, some SLE can be that way. Introverted kind of subdued for your dad would make sense. My dad's SLI and is exactly the same way, keeps his feelings to himself and ponders in silence. I had to get upset at my father for not telling his kids (us) that he loves us; he never used the word love and I thought that was strange about a parent who never said that to kids...I would (all the time). It's normal for them to love their kids in silence, so just ignor it; one thing about some silent SLI dad's is that you kinda have to let them know you want them in order for them to respond.
I can see the strained relationship between him and his wife.
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I don't know about sli for my dad, he isn't very good at figuring out how things work on any level for that matter (he isn't too sharp), he likes to clean alot to the point of obsession, but he has OCD. When I was younger, he was very emotional but now he seems to be cut off somehow.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
That's not necessarily restricted to type. Cultural values can play a big role, particularly if the parents are first generation immigrants to somewhere like the US from more conservative cultures. Studies were conducted between second generation korean americans and their relationships with their parents that overwhelmingly revealed a tendency for children to expect what they saw on tv/other cultural vehicles of family values to happen in their familial lives. Their parents on the other hand came from a cultural milieu that found such verbal expression of feelings as superficial and unnecessary. An example of this attitude (evidenced numerous times in the study sample) was where the kid would ask their father "Do you love me? You never say it" and the father responding, confused, "I take care of you, don't I?"
They simply came out of a culture that viewed expression of affection as materially supporting someone else, even if you were kind of harsh and stern with the ones you 'loved' all the time.
Moonlight will fall
Winter will end
Harvest will come
Your heart will mend
Do you have any examples or anything more on what you mean by him needing someone else to control him? (I'm curious.) Also, if he's unhappy, why does he stay with her?
I think my dad needs someone to control him because his overall demeanor is wishy washy, he can't make up his mind about certain things, and he has a hard time talking about anything other than his work. His wife takes care of all the decision making and he just kinda goes with the flow, he never questions anything.
EIE tritype 5w4, 4w5, 9w1
As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections", 1962
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