Two apologies, first, if I'm asking too many newbie questions, I am in the process of reading the linked articles. Secondly, I'm sorry for being so extraordinarily self-absorbed, but it is the sick who need doctors.
I'm trying to figure out what exactly is going on inside my head. I understand from reading other threads on this forum, that a function that is too strong, or too weak makes an "unhealthy" psyche.
The current situation: procrastination. I ignore very important tasks until the very last minute. I write essays for Varsity the morning they must be handed in. Usually, whenever I have a list of things to do on a particular day, I spend the entire day thinking about the best way to go about doing those things, and then I revise the plan, over and over, and never get to work. I guess this is the result of overused Ti killing off my Se .
Then there are the social aspects. Example : I usually don't greet people, because I don't know what the etiquette is, when to greet, and when not to? I've never spoken to this person before, so do I do it now or not? Even if I decide to greet, I then have to will myself to do it, and most often fail. Can I blame this on weak Fi and Se ? Or is it just because I need to seriously get out more?
I need to take more showers, and not forget to brush my teeth.
My room is an epic mess.
I was normal... well, almost normal a few years ago, though. Here is what I think happened, in light of the new ideas I've come across on this forum. I was quite heavily infatuated with an ESE girl. I was rejected by her, but I guess being the only Fe-ESE girl I've ever gotten to know I really found it hard to forget her. I would sit around for hours, trying to figure a way out of the situation, how to win her over, why I was different from the jocks she would date... argh! This was the aim of my life for a year and a half. Excessive use of Ti?
Perhaps my Se weakened way too much during this time?
My mother is an INFj. Could her strong Fi coupled with the fact that I have a rather large extended family, which meant a whole lot of having to be polite and mannered growing up, have anything to do with the fact that Fi causes me so much stress?
Lastly, I make use of excessive smileys on web forums. Does part of me think being a little ESE is going to help me socially?
If you can help me, I will be greatly indebted to you.