There is an area of life in which the two partners share their values, but the attitude of the two persons towards this area of life is different. For one thing, the two have opposite talents, thus making the two capable of complementing eachother. For another thing, however, the height of their standards is mismatched:
The benefactor is perfectionistic towards this area of life. S/he believes there is a very small number of correct answers to the questions s/he poses him/herself about the issues relevant to this area of life.
The beneficiary, on the other hand, is laconical about these same issues and is quickly satisfied with any results he gets in regard to them. His/her standards for correctness are lower.
The result is that the benefactor feels that the beneficiary, although clearly giving input that is useful to the benefactor's pursuits, is incapable of taking his/her concerns seriously. S/he feels that the beneficiary is clowning around and not making enough of a focussed effort to understand what s/he needs. Meanwhile, the height of the quality of the input that the beneficiary receives from the benefactor is entirely lost on them and the beneficiary is only left disappointed by the lacking frequency at which the input is sent their way.
In the other area of life, the beneficiary is perfectionistically slaving away in a way that looks pointless to the benefactor because the benefactor knows a way to get results in that same area of life that takes them much less effort.
Anyone recognize this?