Khola's typethread.
Ok guys, just doing a tempcheck on peoples' opinions really. I'll give you what I can.
I got these results from this test (http://www.sociotype.com/test.php):
Sociotype: ESE
aka ESFj, The Enthusiast, and Ethical Sensing Extrovert.
Other Possible Types
IEI (85% as likely as ESE)
SEI (84% as likely as ESE)
EIE (76% as likely as ESE)
And here is a personal rundown in my own writing for you:
I tend to value what I perceive to be Alpha groups of people. I like the people I hang around to be accepting - eager to tolerate a wide range of personalities so that I can watch how people tick. I like to feel safe in my friendship groups. Ideally I'd like to have a fairly large friendship base that I can maintain the emotion and relationships of and be available to anyone who needs to talk about emotional and interactive difficulties in their life. This both fascinates me and makes me feel as if I'm doing something worthwhile in my life. I feel that the more I can take in of different peoples emotional reactions to things, the more I can feel how a wide range of people feel and therefore create more harmony and fun.
I enjoy organising get-togethers and have some success with it. I have had large-scale laser tag surprise parties for friends, lots of house parties, that sort of thing. I'm not so big on going out to clubs and pubs - I prefer atmospheres where people are familiar but there is perhaps a 50-50 split of people I do and do not know. I also like to have between 3 and say.... 6 or so really close friends that I can share emotional life issues with when I need to (I hate bringing my personal issues into a wider group), talk about their issues and help them feel through them until they are confident and have come to their own conclusions because I have helped them tease out how they feel and of course have fun with - fun in the sense of going out and surfing, LANs, but mostly big high-energy team games (I ADORE laser tag and also go in for a bit of go karting and love to play on piano and sing (sometimes I'm really shy about the singing, needs liquid encouragement) and basically share these sort of events with others and have an opportunity to learn that also makes the other person/people feel valued and part of a team that is family-like in nature.
I'm very loyal and protective of the emotional state of my close friends (inner circle) and have often been known to heavily self-sacrifice to protect the people I love the most, even to the point of complete social outcasting or personal harm if I feel a person has been put at risk or intentionally attacked, either by another or themselves. Saying that, I hate to act on behalf of people and will only do it in extreme cases where I feel physically uneasy about doing so but my need to keep the person from harm prevails. I see this as one of my major potential flaws - I feel I damage friendships and relationships because I mobilise very quickly if a threat is perceived.
I'm confident that a lot of Fe is involved in my personal character. I think I am alpha, the people I connect best with overall on this forum are generally alpha with a few delta and betas in the mix on either side.
I also have a quiet side. I love going out and about and seeing and meeting people but am often overwhelmed if it goes on for more than a few days in a row. In the same sense, I find full time study/work exhausting and can become quite on-edge around people if I do not feel as if I belong and have to be in an environment where I only feel safe in showing my positive side and putting off a friendly, positive, fun loving attitude all the time. I can then become very quiet and aloof and prone to awkward outbursts, which is incredibly frustrating because it is the opposite of what I want to share with people. I am a loving person. In such situations I feel a need to get away and will immerse myself in music, cook, hole myself up in my room napping and sporadically talking to close friends on msn about how I feel and what they are up to for a bit of distraction in between (and because at that point I feel very guilty for being self-centered and want them to feel appreciated and special too). If I am very stressed I may remove myself from people completely and begin work on writing, drawing or play a song I connect with on piano until I feel I can "deal" with being around people again. I am a highly anxious person. I fear not having a safety net of genuine care and I am incredibly loyal. I tend to be very honest, but careful in my wording so as to be gentle and focus on growth for people in what I say to them.
Occasionally an offhanded comment or joke I blurt out will piss someone off and it will blow into a drama of avoidance and backstabbing type aggression from them. Things like this cause me a great deal of stress and I almost obsess about returning everyone to a sense of harmony to reunite the group when this happens. This usually involves organising group activities of a physical nature to allow people to enjoy themselves as they slowly allow more emotion back within the group. I find this can backfire a lot, and when it does I can become angered from an ethical standpoint and can often retreat into myself further. These are worst case scenarios.
I would ideally like to have a personal life where I have a stable, playful and open-minded larger group of friends who muse over philosophy, art and science, while also having a much smaller personal circle of friends that I feel I can share my deeper emotions with and use as a sounding board to legitimise the choices I have already made in my own head, as well as these people being able to share the load at times in terms of organising social outings and parties.
In a partner I really need someone who will be able to drag me out of my funk and get me out and about again when I become too internalised - get me out socialising again. I also need someone who is more stable and logical than I am, but at the same time almost hard to pick - someone who can hold my interest but also give me a more logical and steadfast stable point from which to bounce my little social-creative world off of so that I don't end up crashing down over something emotional when if I'd looked at things more steadily I might've done better. I also need someone who can look at long term realisation of goals. I need someone who is quite boisterous and unpredictable but also strong and stable with a bit of common sense. I find this confusing because one almost contradicts the other. I need someone who is a bit of a joker and a shitstirrer. I am very good at knowing what I want for my life and what would fulfill me, and very bad at sticking to one path and following it through to completion. In contrast, I am brilliant at keeping others on track in their life goals and keeping them in a good emotional state to succeed - I tend to self-sacrifice in that area. I'm terrible with money. I can budget well, but I never stick to it. I'm a great cook. I am very playful but I also have a usually hidden and extremely serious side. I hate first impressions because I feel that I often come across as awkward. There is always more than I can learn, I read all of this and see many areas in need of improvement.
Also, there were far too many commas in that paragraph. Ugh! I use the word 'I' too much. I'm sorry. :/
If you want more, there are examples of personal feelings and emotional expressions of my feeling during personal/social situations and values (I guess) within my blogs here: http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/blogs/khola/
VI links (may be removed later):
(bottom left)
these are all pretty recent. Some are only days old.
Some of my artwork:
Vocation-wise I have been working in the Design, Proofreading, Desktop Publishing field but am now moving on to study Psychology because I want a career that makes me feel like I'm doing something of worth to the world where I can connect with people when they need me, it forces me to be more outgoing, and it means I might be able to afford my own place one day (not about the money, more about a sense of independence/freedom and also having my own little haven to decorate and be at home in).
(sorry if pics are big it's like 3am and I just wanted the stupid things to work already)
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