what will you do if there are two duals and you must have to choose between them, would you be logical or go with the heart's feelings?

[SenoritaC]

what will you do if there are two duals and you must have to choose between them, would you be logical or go with the heart's feelings?

what is the logical way? or what is the heart's feelings way? how to decide this??

[DirectorAbbie]

I don't know since I've never been in this situation. Of course I'd want to be logical, but the heart's awfully stubborn. Depends on how similar they are. Is one a Christian and the other not? Logic. Do they both have the qualities I want? Heart.

[JuJu]

that's good fortune, to have two duals from which to pick, but--I imagine--a difficult situation.

To choose:
* Try to evaluate which one loves (or likes, if that's the situation) me more.
* I'd probably try to envision which I could see a future with.
* Try to decide which I'm more attracted to.


P.S. great thread name

[xyz]

what will you do if there are two duals and you must have to choose between them, would you be logical or go with the heart's feelings?

what is the logical way? or what is the heart's feelings way? how to decide this??

I'd pick the one with the bigger rack.

[DirectorAbbie]

P.S. great thread name

Lol. Sounds like a Puritan book title.

[thePirate]

what will you do if there are two duals and you must have to choose between them, would you be logical or go with the heart's feelings?

what is the logical way? or what is the heart's feelings way? how to decide this??

So I've been in this situation recently.

Take subtypes into account, that helps

you have to use both, cant really rely on one or the other

Pick the one who aligns with who you are as a person best, who you find most attractive, who you can work with better(the best LONG TERM pick), who shares your interests, who reciprocates, who stimulates you the most on a substantial level, the one who challenges you more, the one who you see as a stronger person, the one who can make you a stronger person by being with them, the one whose company you enjoy more, the one who if taken away you would regret most if they left, etc etc.

[implied]

I'd pick the one with the bigger rack.

i'd pick the one with more money.

[Jarno]

just choose both.

and after a month or so drop the boring one.

[xyz]

pick a romantic partner? i'd pick the one whom i love and who loves me too, duh

What if they both love you?

[xyz]

Is it unpossible to love both equally?

[Morcheeba]

Whichever one is better in bed.

[thePirate]

whore

[greed]

i don't know, i kind of hope i never get into that kind of situation.

Two options here:
1. Take the fetal position in the corner of the room and cry, knowing that you cannot solve this dilemma and will forever be alone
2. Flip a coin

[Morcheeba]

Well, there are other things that would determine which one I would choose of course, but sex is certainly important, so you can think i'm a whore if you would like.

[xyz]

Like I said, I'd pick the one with the biggest rack.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Pick the one who aligns with who you are as a person best, who you find most attractive, who you can work with better(the best LONG TERM pick), who shares your interests, who reciprocates, who stimulates you the most on a substantial level, the one who challenges you more, the one who you see as a stronger person, the one who can make you a stronger person by being with them, the one whose company you enjoy more, the one who if taken away you would regret most if they left, etc etc.

It could be exactly 50/50 there. So I don't know about that advice.

I say don't worry about it. Whatever happens happens and why does love lessen just cause it can't be physically manifested? Or just because a relationship can't work realistically? The love is still there, the pure love, and what about cherishing that in the own right. The thing with love is that everybody agrees that it's important, but nobody can agree what it is exactly.

Maybe 'Love' is accepting reality and what has been given to you and allowing people to love you for where you always are instead of where they want you to be or where you want to be. I don't think love can be conditional.

[thePirate]

its never 50/50

neverrrr

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Not true. I love two people right now. And I read all those qualities and the other person fits exactly half of them and the other fits the other half and it comes out exactly even, I based it on my real life experiences.

So it might be 50.000000005% something, still not enough to really make that person 'automatically best' but I don't really gauge my human relationships by math either.

[JWC3]

I'd pick the one I find more sexually attractive.

EDIT: And yes, I am shallow.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

haha a few years ago I'd agree with that in a heartbeat. especially when I was 18 and shit maaaaan the natural biological peak of male sexuality it comes and goes.

[thePirate]

Not true. I love two people right now. And I read all those qualities and the other person fits exactly half of them and the other fits the other half and it comes out exactly even, I based it on my real life experiences.
.

in that case, you should probably dump both of them.

never settle boyy

[MatthewZ]

Everyone knows Contrary is more psychologically fulfilling than a dual.

[DirectorAbbie]

Everyone knows Contrary is more psychologically fulfilling than a dual.

Opposing quadra?

[crazedrat]

whichever one i liked more..

[Park]

i'd pick the one with more money.

whore

lmao

[jughead]

Do you really even have to choose one? Did someone already say both?

[Wrong Way Ticket]

Both. Until it was clear.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

You misunderstand. I'm not conflicted, it all makes sense to me.

I'm with one already but the other I will still love, u just don't stop loving somebody cause ur in a relationship with somebody else, people (generic 'you') are so naive with how a relationship will really go I swear but I won't rant. NOT THIS TIME.

[Dionysis]

Well, there are other things that would determine which one I would choose of course, but sex is certainly important, so you can think i'm a whore if you would like.

It is not a whore that explores the whole of a relationship. This is a well adjusted person exploring the possibilities of life with out the stigma of social influence. I give you kudos for sticking to your opinions.

[Morcheeba]

It is not a whore that explores the whole of a relationship. This is a well adjusted person exploring the possibilities of life with out the stigma of social influence. I give you kudos for sticking to your opinions.

Welcome! I like you already

[MatthewZ]

Opposing quadra?

It's called balance. Represent all of the functions as valued.

[FDG]

I'd pick the one with the bigger rack.

Sounds like a good criteria.

[jewels]

that'd be a very fortunate dilemma. I'd look at character, subtype, and all the stuff ThePirate said.

But I mean, people of the same type are still ridiculously different, so there'd be a lot to size up. Duality just gets you in the door...then there's all that other stuff..

[Creepy-male]

haha a few years ago I'd agree with that in a heartbeat. especially when I was 18 and shit maaaaan the natural biological peak of male sexuality it comes and goes.

This is the peak of male sexuality? Shit.

[Wrong Way Ticket]

This is the peak of male sexuality? Shit.

I really don't think so. It may be a peak of misplaced hormones, but not libido. imo

[silverchris9]

Shrug. I guess I'd just move to Utah and practice polygamy.

Honestly, it would end up being what Director Abbie said; who do I share more religious beliefs (Christianity) with, and then after that maybe who do I share more life goals with... but then also "who am I in a relationship with" and "who do I see as having the best chance of me not only having a relationship right now with, but also having a marriage that will last how ever many decades."

But honestly, in the moment, I'd probably just pick whichever girl I liked better (read: had a bigger rack/better butt. kidding.) Honestly, I'm having a bigger problem figuring out why both of these SLE girls are so totally into me that they're going to let me "pick" between them. I'd spend more time trying to divine the source of my good fortune than picking.

[717495]

I'd probably go with my heart. I don't know, the pressure might get to me, and I could eventually try to rationalize everything. Sometimes its best to let things decide for themselves, if you know what I mean.

[Blaze]

what a great position to be in ... choosing between two duals? wow. honestly, i'd probably follow my heart. some things aren't meant for logic.

[tiny_dancer]

Don't know. I could see how there might be extenuating circumstances...

What if there was absolutely perfect chemistry between myself and the first, and he was caring, intelligent, and challenged me...but he lived in a place that I couldn't live - maybe it was too small, or too expensive... and I was worried about our future living in a place like that. And he was unlikely to move, because it suited him perfectly.

But what if the other one cared about me just as much, perhaps I even admired him more for certain things, and had a lifestyle I easily meshed with... but I wasn't 100% certain about his character. Not that he was a bad person per se, just that he was a little less caring than the first. Maybe he didn't feel quite as invested as the other one did.

I probably wouldn't go for the second... but I might not go for the first either.

But only because I think that "love" won't solve everything, and sometimes other circumstances can create enough pressure to damage what you originally had. And that I can't give up my own aspirations and dreams to make someone else happy if it won't make me happy as well.

[redbaron]

But I mean, people of the same type are still ridiculously different, so there'd be a lot to size up. Duality just gets you in the door...then there's all that other stuff..

exactly.