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    How would you order your communication preference? I'm starting to really not like talking to people on the phone...

    My order is: in person > txt > IM > phone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lobo View Post
    How would you order your communication preference? I'm starting to really not like talking to people on the phone...

    My order is: in person > txt > IM > phone.
    Why are you starting to dislike talking on the phone?

    Phones are convenient. I equate them roughly with Skype, but Skype is a little better thanks to headphone+mic. Texts are also convenient when you don't have much to say. Finally, IMs are a good way to keep in contact with your internet buddies for whom the other means of communication are not available.

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    I might also add that I actually do not have anyone to hang out with in person at the moment

    Hopefully that'll change with meeting peeps through university club activities and the like.
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    IM > phone > text
    As much as I dislike calling people, I text even less often than that.
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    1. In person.
    2. text.
    2. phone.

    I really don't like the phone. Unless it's someone I know super well. In that case I like to rant and tell long stories, etc.

    When making plans, my friends know I often just text. One of my INTj friends overcomplicates plans when it's done over the phone and then I have to call lots of people and wait for them to pick up, or wait to leave a message. So I try to not pick up so she'll text, so she now tells everyone I don't answer my phone lol.
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    In person > IM > phone


    I don't really see texting as a form of communication, or if it is it's just like IM but on an smaller scale. Texting is more 'notification' to me, not conversation.


    Phone is significantly better, however, for business transactions, than IMing or texting. The difference is having an agenda and a clear endpoint. Perhaps I should think as conversations on the phone that way as well, hmm..
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    Oh I didn't know 'in person' was an option

    IM > in person > phone > text
    I'm basically a tremendous homebody :<
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coolanzon View Post
    Why are you starting to dislike talking on the phone?
    Maybe it's a matter of preferring in-person communication. Idk really, it just seems forced to make conversation at times, and the silence is awkward when there's nothing that you have to say anymore. There's someone who recently asked for my phone number who lost it because his phone got reset, and I honestly don't feel like giving it again. Last time we spoke wasn't really in good terms, so it seems like pushing it to jump to talking on the phone, rather than start by more impersonal communication.

    Then there's having to change your tone of voice to sound like you're really interested, because it comes off as if you're annoyed or bored (when I'm really not). I have a deep voice when a talk on the phone (not on purpose), which does not make this easy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lobo View Post
    Maybe it's a matter of preferring in-person communication. Idk really, it just seems forced to make conversation at times, and the silence is awkward when there's nothing that you have to say anymore. There's someone who recently asked for my phone number who lost it because his phone got reset, and I honestly don't feel like giving it again. Last time we spoke wasn't really in good terms, so it seems like pushing it to jump to talking on the phone, rather than start by more impersonal communication.

    Then there's having to change your tone of voice to sound like you're really interested, because it comes off as if you're annoyed or bored (when I'm really not). I have a deep voice when a talk on the phone (not on purpose), which does not make this easy.
    Yeah, I know what you mean (minus the part about having a deep voice).

    For as long as I can remember, I've found the phone to be awkward and I avoid it when I can. Talking with someone in person is almost always the most efficient for me because that's when the most forms of communication are present (words, tone, pauses, facial expressions, body language, etc.). So if I really need to communicate something, in-person is the best. However, depending on the situation I can like emails or IMing better, particularly when I don't want to or don't have time to focus on someone all at once. Even with "instant" messaging, I can have other things going on at the same time. It gives me some space, some distance, that sometimes I like.

    As for texting - I think I kind of fail at that. I don't use my phone a lot, so I'll often put it down and not look at it for hours, if not a couple of days.
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    In person > phone > text > im

    Text & IM just give me too much opportunity to get distracted and accidentally ignore the message. Then I have to apologise later and feel like a bit of a twat.

    I have 4 unreplied to text messages from yesterday still waiting for me to reply =(

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    In person > IM > phone


    I don't really see texting as a form of communication, or if it is it's just like IM but on an smaller scale. Texting is more 'notification' to me, not conversation.


    Phone is significantly better, however, for business transactions, than IMing or texting. The difference is having an agenda and a clear endpoint. Perhaps I should think as conversations on the phone that way as well, hmm..
    I feel similar to most of this response.

    Conversation = in person
    Planning a meeting (meeting up with someone, figuring out movie times, etc)= phone, IM
    Notifications = quick phone call, txt/IM
    Chit chat = IM
    Long Distance = IM, phone, email
    Catching Up = IM, email

    I'm kinda sensitive to volume of sounds, talking on the phone often hurts my ears.

    The more real time the conversation is, the more it shows how easily distracted I get, as well as how unfocused I am. When I'm able to edit, I'm a little more coherent...though often write too much..as in pages of stuff.

    I also tend to get much more easily distracted when I'm on the phone. Well, it shows more, that is. IMs and PMs allow me to do multiple things while also having the conversation, so the distractedness doesn't show as much.

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    The text message is the best invention of all time. The only people I willingly talk to on the phone are my parents as I never get to see them in person..other than them, I almost refuse to use the phone; I utterly despise it with every bone in my body. So, text, in person, email, instant message, morse code, sign language, phone.

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