delta and being beyond blame

[Sammy]

in your experience, do you find deltas to believe that they don't need to say "sorry" to anyone for any of their own words or actions?

[JuJu]

No, I've had deltas apologize to me. However, those apologies are usually couched in an explanation or 'ifs,' e.g. if my insinuation offended you, then I'm very sorry..."

[jewels]

No, I've had deltas apologize to me. However, those apologies are usually couched in an explanation or 'ifs,' e.g. if my insinuation offended you, then I'm very sorry..."

I think the word "if" is used just in case they were wrong and didn't offend you -- it would be annoying or even insulting if someone assumed you were offended when you weren't right?

Or if they knew for sure you were offended, then that's annoying to use "if." They should just say "sorry."

[JuJu]

I think the word "if" is used just in case they were wrong and didn't offend you -- it would be annoying or even insulting if someone assumed you were offended when you weren't right?

Or if they knew for sure you were offended, then that's annoying to use "if." They should just say "sorry."

This makes sense. Thanks, jewels.

[DirectorAbbie]

Why apologise for something I'm not sorry for? I do apologise-but only when I wish I'd done something differently. Otherwise, it's lying.

[thePirate]

in your experience, do you find deltas to believe that they don't need to say "sorry" to anyone for any of their own words or actions?

thats more of a beta mentality


the whole douchebag thing

[Nexus]

in your experience, do you find deltas to believe that they don't need to say "sorry" to anyone for any of their own words or actions?

that is because they don't care about anything but themselves () and they don't intuit their own faults (); rather they think that they can calm you down () & cause you to see their way (), with no regard for anyone else

thats more of a beta mentality

the whole douchebag thing

red herring (knowledge) ad hominem (who) and circular reasoning ( / ) is common in deltas; apparently logical validity is for introverted thinkers

[Galen]

No, I've had deltas apologize to me. However, those apologies are usually couched in an explanation or 'ifs,' e.g. if my insinuation offended you, then I'm very sorry..."

I have a tendency of doing that I suppose. I've never considered receiving that as something worth taking offense over though, so it's interesting to hear what others think about it.

[Galen]

Deltas apologize when they realize they were wrong and will often explain why they did what they did. Part of it is to save face more than anything and to be proper more than saying sorry because it grieves your heart, even if it does. Though I may be basing this off the wrong individuals.

While the bulk of this seems apt, that's not to say that nothing "grieves our hearts". Deltas, like all types, do have the capacity to feel bad about severe wrong-doings. But saving face does seem like a fairly important aspect of delta apologetics; to me at least, personal image matters quite a bit.

[Nexus]

I used to be uncomfortable with apologizing, but then I thought, "I really hate it when people don't acknowledge their mistakes and apologize" and how "cowardly" that is, so I began instantly acknowledging my mistakes and saying I was sorry. I feel I owe it to them.

I don't think Huitzilopochtli's reasoning is very reasonable.

I concur.

I prefer nickel, iron, titanium, and selenium, the cool metals

[Nexus]

Everyone knows Neon is the most awesome.

lol...you got me, it's my place of least resistance

[UDP]

I can think of people of all quadras who try to pull the 'beyond blame' card.

[Creepy-male]

Deltas apologize when they realize they were wrong and will often explain why they did what they did. Part of it is to save face more than anything and to be proper more than saying sorry because it grieves your heart, even if it does. Though I may be basing this off the wrong individuals.

Heh, funny thing is, I always thought Gammas were the obsessively image-conscious Quadra with way too much of a focus on being Normal.

I think perhaps we're both thinking of the wrong representatives of each Quadra

[thePirate]

that is because they don't care about anything but themselves () and they don't intuit their own faults (); rather they think that they can calm you down () & cause you to see their way (), with no regard for anyone else



red herring (knowledge) ad hominem (who) and circular reasoning ( / ) is common in deltas; apparently logical validity is for introverted thinkers

if this is how you see them, I advise you brush up on the elements you filthy swine.

[Jarno]

in your experience, do you find deltas to believe that they don't need to say "sorry" to anyone for any of their own words or actions?

never really noticed that.

[Galen]

if this is how you see them, I advise you brush up on the elements you filthy swine.

I assumed he was joking to an extent.

[jaZ]

Epic

This also depends on what it is about the delta that you were hurt by or took offense at. From our perspective we may not even notice at times if it has to do with something we're not immediately aware of.

[The Greeter]

This behaviour is not exclusive to the Delta quadra and depends more on individuals.

Deltas apologize when they realize they were wrong and will often explain why they did what they did. Part of it is to save face more than anything and to be proper more than saying sorry because it grieves your heart, even if it does. Though I may be basing this off the wrong individuals.

I see what you're saying, partially. I definitely feel the need to explain my wrong doings, but it's more so that the offended party understands my side of the story. It's a natural extension of my tendency to ask a person why they are sorry, and why something happened --in essence, to understand as best as I can.

If I was offended, a simple "sorry, I did X" is not even close to satisfactory for me. I want to understand and be understood, I want to help and be helped. Apologizing is not a game for me.

[JuJu]

If I was offended, a simple "sorry, I did X" is not even close to satisfactory for me. I want to understand and be understood, I want to help and be helped. Apologizing is not a game for me.

This makes sense... My Delta step-brother would often write long 'I want to be understood' letters.

[tiny_dancer]

This makes sense... My Delta step-brother would often write long 'I want to be understood' letters.

lol That doesn't surprise me - the more I worked with my quasi, the more we ran into situations where one person says "cat" and the other person thinks they said "Volkswagon." Total misunderstanding where no malintent was intended.

[The Exception]

Everyone knows Neon is the most awesome.

Yes, Neon rules. So does Silicon. It makes an excellent semiconductor.

[Galen]

liquid tellurium injected straight into my pupils

[Marie84]

that is because they don't care about anything but themselves ()

I wish that were true, life would be so much easier if I didn't care so much about other people and what they think/feel, etc

I haven't noticed a trend in any specific quadra being more or less apologetic, I think it may have to do more about the situation and people involved as well as factors like upbringing.

[tiny_dancer]

There are times in my life when I've apologized if I'm conscious of offending someone or when I've been out of line, and other times when I've refused to apologize b/c I didn't see why the person was upset. As for deltas in particular "being beyond blame"... ? How many people on this forum argue with each other and never apologize for their offenses? Start counting... let me know what you come up with.

I've noticed a situation popping up between members of opposite quadras. One person will offend the other by naturally being themselves and stating things the way they normally would. The other takes offense, and the offending party feels that they shouldn't have to apologize because they don't understand how the other person is so upset. Even if they do apologize, it rings hollow because they think the other person is being unreasonable.

[Creepy-]

I haven't noticed Deltas being "beyond blame," at least not more than other types.

that is because they don't care about anything but themselves () and they don't intuit their own faults (); rather they think that they can calm you down () & cause you to see their way (), with no regard for anyone else

Were you serious or joking w this?

I don't see why Fi would mean caring only about oneself, or why Ne would mean being oblivious to one's own faults... if anything, I see them as close to the exact opposite of what you've described here.

[Nexus]

I haven't noticed Deltas being "beyond blame," at least not more than other types.



Were you serious or joking w this?

I don't see why Fi would mean caring only about oneself, or why Ne would mean being oblivious to one's own faults... if anything, I see them as close to the exact opposite of what you've described here.

well then you must be some kind of a subjectivist..what's your point?

[Creepy-]

well then you must be some kind of a subjectivist..what's your point?

My point was to question your point. And yes, I do think a lot of this is subjective... which is why I wondered about your absolutist phrasing.

[Cheesy]

That interpretation was nothing but subjective, it's actually the opposite of how socionics defines these elements. I can also say that LSIs are petty, narrow minded people who only care about what they think. Only I know that when I say that it's merely an expression of my own feelings towards specific people that I know and can't even generalize as representing a whole type, let alone an entire quadra.

[crazedrat]

Why apologise for something I'm not sorry for? I do apologise-but only when I wish I'd done something differently. Otherwise, it's lying.

yeah

[Nexus]

That interpretation was nothing but subjective, it's actually the opposite of how socionics defines these elements. I can also say that LSIs are petty, narrow minded people who only care about what they think. Only I know that when I say that it's merely an expression of my own feelings towards specific people that I know and can't even generalize as representing a whole type, let alone an entire quadra.

you motherf*ckers are way too serious...don't get your panties in a wad

[Galen]

Eveybody's terrible!

[Nexus]

oh yeah, and I'm sorry...that you're delta

[Galen]

oh yeah, and I'm sorry...that you're delta