These two sound the best to me, actually. Gather a small bunch and pay everyone's meals/entrance/whatever.Originally Posted by Minde
Restaurant > event, because more centralized, relaxed and likely to be equally/similarly enjoyed by attendees.
These two sound the best to me, actually. Gather a small bunch and pay everyone's meals/entrance/whatever.
Restaurant > event, because more centralized, relaxed and likely to be equally/similarly enjoyed by attendees.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Nah, that's just how we (Delta) introverts like it.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
- Oktober Fest outing, sounds pretty good to me. If you don't like the beer part, you can just accompany your friend without drinking beer.
- Pirate party, you can go without a pirate gear and just wear your normal clothes on that day, it's your birthday on that day anyway so i dont think they will mind.
- Having dinner at mid-scale restaurant sounds pretty cool too.
- Hunting down something artistic/cultural.
Haha these are my opinions. But I think you should go with what feels best to you, because it's your birthday so you are the one who will have to go through the entire thing.
restaurant or cultural thing get my vote
I have done the restaurant thing, and noone seemed to mind paying for their meal. It was relaxed, casual, and I didn't have to do hostessy things. It had also been very last minute...as in one hour notice (because I had been waiting for my friend, who had traveled up from CA for one of my real bdays, to get ready to go eat, but he never got his ass off the couch and it was waaay past time for eating, so I called friends and family and met them at a restaurant. The next day my friend said it was too bad he and I didn't get to do anything. Mmmm, FU!)
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec-->benchmark SLI?
Bump this question because it really cuts to the core of everything for me.
Ron Swanson is a SLI caricature, Nick Offerman is a real SLI.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
I think im LSE... what do you think @Maritsa?
I haven't read many of your posts and we haven't interacted much. Maybe we should
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
doubple post
Sorry Minde all of this seems to be too merry for me and a waste of time to contemplate over at best. What I would do depends on the weather but mostly I like being home with people I love. I would opt to have people over with a bottle of wine and just thank them for wanting to be there
Keep it simple, kind, and warm
Because most of what you say are things that people enjoy together
Serious types do the other
Things you enjoy together would be communal experiences. Sharing a home cooked meal, taking a walk together, gardening or doing chores as a couple or team. Individual gratification together is something you're both doing at the same time, but having your own experience of it. Like listening to a symphony orchestra. You're "together" technically, but one person's experience of the music can be very different than the other's.
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Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I saw a hedgehog in May. He went by same road.
Have you considered IEE?
just look at this one! it's so tiny
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Haha sounds fun!
Yes, it was interesting for me to see the easy-going and accepting side of IEEs in someone else. It was liberating to hang out with someone and feel like there is nothing you can do that would bother them (within reason, obviously). But there was also no spark whatsoever. We text a lot, but we have agreed that there isn't much romantic potential.
Now, along these lines, I had a first date last night with an SLI (I think) I really like and was (am) madly attracted to. I have been on quite a few first dates in the past six months and I am usually pretty good at appearing to be confident and a good communicator while being a bit flirtateous. Last night, I was so smitten that all my flirting skills went out the window and I switched between rambling about nothing, hanging on to his every word like a mesmerized madwoman, and doing my usual nervous oversharing thing. I think I violated every single rule in the dating book.
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
@Kim , what was his instinctual subtype? And don't worry *pets* ; SLIs can do that to us, no matter how smooth we can be at other times heh.
Lol that's reassuring. I mean, I have been attracted to dates before, but as soon as I saw him (it was a blind date, so I had only seen pictures) I was just mesmerized. He is attractive and all, but it was even more that sort of solid presence of mature, confident, content SLIs?
I was a bumbling mess...but I have hope that that doesn't deter him...I am usually not too worried about how I behaved on a date, but with this one I keep thinking back on things I said and just cringe lol.
For instinct stacking, I would say sp/sx or sx/sp. I have to think more about how either would manifest in an SLI (and I can't even be sure yet that he is SLI...).
Last edited by Kim; 09-19-2016 at 12:47 PM.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I don't know if there is enough yoga in the world to keep me sane in this dating world...
Sometimes I feel like I have no idea how to navigate my own natural inclinations of expressing excitement and actively moving things along, "dating rules" (which are so American and not something I am used to), gender expectations (blegh), and my own incredibly awful impatience. I don't have any sense of what is "normal."
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I was never good at following prescribed dating rules nor expectations. But it also took me years to become more upfront and blunt about what i wanted..having kissed too many toads!! My advice would be to figure out the minimum you would like from this guy, and then ask him for it. Like "hey, I like you and am attracted to you. I'd like to spend more time with you when our schedules permit. Or get to know you better via phone/text/email. Are you interested?" Or such. Beware wording that might give off a 'I'm willing to just be your fuck buddy', unless that is part of the minimum of course.I don't know if there is enough yoga in the world to keep me sane in this dating world...
Sometimes I feel like I have no idea how to navigate my own natural inclinations of expressing excitement and actively moving things along, "dating rules" (which are so American and not something I am used to), gender expectations (blegh), and my own incredibly awful impatience. I don't have any sense of what is "normal."
The worst that can happen is he rejects the minimum and doesn't offer a counter minimum. Or you both have some great booty call sex. At least then you will have a better idea of what he wants from you, which will bring less anxiety. You'll also know sooner if you are wasting time/energy worrying about what might happen next.
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
Great minds think alike.Just before I read this, I sent him a text and just asked if there will be a second date, that it does not need to be planned right now, but that I would like to know if he is up for it now a few days after the date (and that I definitely want to see him again). I just can't do the waiting thing, especially when he is not texting much and I don't get a sense of why (although he does tell me he is busy and he wasn't that much of a texter before the date either).
I have no problem with not texting 24/7, but at this stage, I need to know where we both stand (even if that was clear during the date - time brings perspective and I am sure I want to pursue this, but he might not be and the sooner I know, the better). And I like him too much for anything casual (plus I am not looking for that atm).
I have learned from past experiences dealing with with push/pull, on/off people that I can't deal with it. I can handle rejection just fine, but limbo and not knowing, not so much.
Thank you!! <3
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Last edited by Kim; 06-24-2017 at 06:22 PM.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I love fuzzeh legs. Not on me though xD
I like the feel of shaved legs, but I also like a guy who rolls with the (hairy) punches and doesn't care. On some days, shaving is just not in the cards and who wants to be met with "ew" or feel self-conscious about it.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
In case anybody cares, on my birthday I ended up going sailing in the rain with a small-ish group and then went to a dinner with a few family and friends that my sister organized. (Having an IEE sister is the best.)
Thanks, everyone, for your input in my moment of
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
That sounds great and happy belated birthday! <3In case anybody cares, on my birthday I ended up going sailing in the rain with a small-ish group and then went to a dinner with a few family and friends that my sister organized. (Having an IEE sister is the best.)
Thanks, everyone, for your input in my moment of
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
In other not-so-surprising-news, being vulnerable is so scary and hard. Fear of judgment and rejection is debilitating.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
I love that tiny piano hedgehog...
Omg I have such mixed feelings about opossums...
someday the grapes will be wine
and someday you will be mine
EII-Ne 2w3 - 9w1 - 7w8 so/sx
Omg. In socionic term, I'm accumulating SHIT.
I mean, Ive come to love a track on soundcloud.
At this moment, I'm beginning to do real stuff on music making, not just being experimental about stuff. Ive writed on paper some track I wan't to compose then, for some, release. One track Ive writed is a bit in the vein of the omen track, so naturally, I contacted him if he was okay to release his track on vinyl with mine. we spoke a bit, and quickly, the subject of money come. I wasn't ready, I was thinking doing only a "friend release", 100 ex, facebook distribution. He aim over that, traditionnal way of distributing (toolbox records for ex). He said it's possible to make money if I make a killer track.
omg omg STRESS.
It happen that the guy is my conflictor (Ive seen discussion, photo, facebook profile).
The first record I will release will be with my conflictor.
Socionic fail.
:'(
PS : if there is someone who can say if the speech make sense on my first track (nothing too technical, only introducing my world) :
https://soundcloud.com/zattwaks/no_id-introduction
Ive cutted the speech because it's too long for my need but I'm not sure it still mean something it seem's okay ? I'm not english speaker.
It's a speech from timothy leary.
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so at the end what's the problem with conflictor relationship
meeting my conflictor mean I will stop my progression on music even if I just begin to compose ? lol
behold a youtube series called "deltalife" looking at socionics
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?lis...jWi8GXV1fTQGka
so far i've talked to a probably EII (ep 3) and definite IEE (episode 2 and 4)
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
random video from the series
lots of ne te
less ni ti
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
Ive had a ISTp girlfriend for 9 years, and, magical, the very positive aspect I retain from this activator relationshit is amazement/attraction toward tiny things, various animals and stuffHave you considered IEE?
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Last edited by Chae; 01-24-2017 at 11:58 AM.
previously. he died with a felafel
felafel here, reporting back for duty; new moniker, oh, just call me Delilah!
Hi Ann, how are you?
I had a personal disaster, divorce, what was a relief, compared to separation: savage.
I feel better now and doing slightly better too.
Hope everyone is doing well
Hi Delilah.felafel here, reporting back for duty; new moniker, oh, just call me Delilah!
Hi Ann, how are you?
I had a personal disaster, divorce, what was a relief, compared to separation: savage.
I feel better now and doing slightly better too.
Hope everyone is doing well
I'm doing pretty well. Battling raccoons, a couple of bully chickens, my clutter (final battle, the rest would be skirmishes), and my avoidance of more concrete language. Embracing (or at least accepting more deeply) where I'm at, and how I am. And pursuing my life...finally.
I'm sorry about your separation. Seeing potential, yet losing it. The state of one foot in with one foot out. I can imagine how relieving (even if still a bit sorrowful) making the final cut or burning the final bridge can be. May you find/attract what you want from life, and who'd be compatible and bring joy to your life.
Also, welcome back to the forum. I'm rarely on these days (when I'm avoiding working), but there are lots of new people, and new names hiding familiar people. Have fun figuring out which is which.
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
I'm so weird out by things that seem definitive, I mean, I am too young for that, I am 23. I want the life to be a wandering adventure or some bullshit like that, but it doesn't work for me for some reason.... ah, crap.
For years I used to do yoga exercises then, suddenly, I stopped one day and went back to swimming, childhood comforts. I learned how to swim from the guys because I could clearly see the cut of the work, compared to the girls, who had much more flare and style and confused my sense of learning by imitation as a child.
here's one for the past:
tell me more about #1 and should I worry about #2?1- ...my avoidance of more concrete language.
2- Also, welcome back to the forum. I'm rarely on these days (when I'm avoiding working), but there are lots of new people, and new names hiding familiar people. Have fun figuring out which is which.
hahah, no need to worry about #2. It's kind of fun though guessing.
#1 has to do with my attempts to get back into fiction writing. My biggest issue, which I've had forever, has been writing descriptions of settings and character, and the more concrete actions that give clues to mood etc. I'm forcing myself to write even just 3 sentences a day (up from one). There's like an internal struggle, where part of me gets angry that I'm having to pay attention to these kinds of things, and another part scolding myself that it's just 3 simple sentences. This practice is separate from a short story I'm writing. Each day I force myself to come up with concrete objects that the character (a momma raccoon) would come across in a particular scene. As well as active verbs related to that object, as in words that would describe what the object is doing.
A pathetic example of practicing the first part, but the best I created last week...
The topic sentence given was "The room was messy."
Books piled on the shelves, while stacks of notes peaked out of each nook and cranny. Sacks of sunflower seeds, cracked corn, oyster chips, and chicken feed leaned against the wall and each other. Seeds spilling onto the floor. Work boots, mudruckers, walking shoes, and slippers lay within tripping distance of unsuspecting visitors.
It reads so childish in effort, and not the fun kind of childish,
But, hopefully practice will help me improve this skill.
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
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