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    When you find out that someone disagrees w you on a topic that is important to you [religion, politics, something else....], how do you react [in your mind and/or outwardly]?

    Does it bother you that they disagree?

    Do you become intrigued by their different perspective?

    Do you see them/their stance as "wrong"?

    Do you try to convince them of the legitimacy of your stance over theirs?

    Something else?

    Why?

    EDIT: I realized after I made this thread that I already asked pretty much the same question here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SoapOfSapphire View Post
    When you find out that someone disagrees w you on a topic that is important to you [religion, politics, something else....], how do you react [in your mind and/or outwardly]?

    Does it bother you that they disagree?

    Do you become intrigued by their different perspective?

    Do you see them/their stance as "wrong"?

    Do you try to convince them of the legitimacy of your stance over theirs?

    Why??
    This one. I do not like the idea of somehow forcing my opinion down someone else's. I would much rather get a sense for what that different perspective entails, the inner essence, the twists and turns, and the basic elements of the perspective. I would prefer to discover why they hold that perspective.
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    Depends on how strongly I believe it. Some things I assume they're wrong and then try to find out why they believe as they do. If I'm in a really good mood, I try to find out what's right in their view so that I can modify my view accordingly. But on some things I have to confess that I just think that others are wrong, and I'll definitely start/have/continue an argument over them (for example, the terribleness of Tyler Perry's writing in comparison to his cultural importance. To me, one doesn't excuse the other, at least not completely). It doesn't really bother me that they disagree though, if they disagree for good reasons (which I suppose are a little subjective), or even reasons at all, as opposed to misinformation. But most things (even religion/politics that many people would fight about), I accept as a different viewpoint that probably has something right in it too, and as something interesting to talk about or argue (arguing isn't always bad).
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    Quote Originally Posted by SoapOfSapphire View Post
    Do you try to convince them of the legitimacy of your stance over theirs?
    That's what I do. I usually stay away from religion, because that's ended badly in the past (although I sometimes try with militant atheists). I don't care much about politics so I don't argue about that. If it's something logical, and they're obviously wrong, I'll argue tirelessly - logical inconsistencies upset me and I view them as "important to me". If it's an emotional problem, I tend to listen then try to suggest reasons why they should change their perspective.
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