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    So, is there a difference in the way IEIs & SLEs interact online compared to in-person?
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    What do you mean love?

    And hi , cause I don't think we have met.
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    What do you mean love? I guess online interaction is always different.

    And hi , cause I don't think we have met.
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    In my experience: a HUGE difference. I don't think text is a great medium for transmitting Se.

    I work next to an SLE-Se who's a sort of big brother figure to me. So much of our interaction is based on physical space - it's hard to describe, but there are lots of impulsive movements and joking threats. When I interact with him online or through SMS it's all just his Fe-HA coming through, albeit forcefully. (It probably doesn't help that he's quite clearly an Se subtype.)

    I haven't interacted with many SLEs from this forum in depth, apart from Mimosa, but it's difficult to compare male and female, and I don't think SLEs (particularly SLE-Ses) are particularly active on internet forums. I don't get much of an Se impression from my interaction with Mimosa though, I'm often convinced that she's my identical . I guess that's testimony to how much better Ni is conveyed over the internet - from my perspective, at least.
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    Quote Originally Posted by octopuslove View Post
    In my experience: a HUGE difference. I don't think text is a great medium for transmitting Se.

    I work next to an SLE-Se who's a sort of big brother figure to me. So much of our interaction is based on physical space - it's hard to describe, but there are lots of impulsive movements and joking threats. When I interact with him online or through SMS it's all just his Fe-HA coming through, albeit forcefully. (It probably doesn't help that he's quite clearly an Se subtype.)

    I haven't interacted with many SLEs from this forum in depth, apart from Mimosa, but it's difficult to compare male and female, and I don't think SLEs (particularly SLE-Ses) are particularly active on internet forums. I don't get much of an Se impression from my interaction with Mimosa though, I'm often convinced that she's my identical . I guess that's testimony to how much better Ni is conveyed over the internet - from my perspective, at least.

    Very helpful. Makes sense.
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    Quote Originally Posted by octopuslove View Post
    In my experience: a HUGE difference. I don't think text is a great medium for transmitting Se.

    I work next to an SLE-Se who's a sort of big brother figure to me. So much of our interaction is based on physical space - it's hard to describe, but there are lots of impulsive movements and joking threats. When I interact with him online or through SMS it's all just his Fe-HA coming through, albeit forcefully. (It probably doesn't help that he's quite clearly an Se subtype.)

    I haven't interacted with many SLEs from this forum in depth, apart from Mimosa, but it's difficult to compare male and female, and I don't think SLEs (particularly SLE-Ses) are particularly active on internet forums. I don't get much of an Se impression from my interaction with Mimosa though, I'm often convinced that she's my identical . I guess that's testimony to how much better Ni is conveyed over the internet - from my perspective, at least.
    Yeah, I agree with this completely. It's like night and day talking to SLEs online vs. in person.
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    I think there is a huge difference between the way in which anyone interacts online in comparison to how they do IRL. I don't think it's limited to this dual pair.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Herzy View Post
    I think there is a huge difference between the way in which anyone interacts online in comparison to how they do IRL. I don't think it's limited to this dual pair.
    In this case, the question was about IEIs & SLEs specifically. I don't think anyone denies that communication is different irl.
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    Quote Originally Posted by parcel View Post
    So, is there a difference in the way IEIs & SLEs interact online compared to in-person?
    I'm goofy.... but how can I be goofy when the other person doesn't see my face doesn't hear the inflections of my voice?

    Online you can get quality interaction only if you use a webcam and voice... not text.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Herzy View Post
    I think there is a huge difference between the way in which anyone interacts online in comparison to how they do IRL. I don't think it's limited to this dual pair.
    Yes, I can't agree more, it is generally the enneagram instinct stacking that separates your present in online or in real life if anything. So I will expect that relationship will develop better if both person has the same stacking.
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