So, I was hanging out with one of my close friends today, who's ILI, and it occurred to me that almost always when we hang out, it's the two of us and at least one Se-ego: my SEE brother, my LSI friend, my SLE friend, etc. We have similar reactions to standard Se statements, behaviors, whatever, and we often share the "wow, what [Se-ego] just said was stupid in most wonderful way" look. Anyway, today we were hanging out with my SLE friend and a friend whose type I don't know, until they had to leave and it was just us two hanging out. And it was lots of fun, but I noticed that as soon as they left, we both became really inertial: there was lots of "I dunno, what do you want to do," type stuff. Conversation kinda slowed down too. It was just as interesting, but didn't feel as exciting. We'd take turns telling funny stories and reacting to the other's funny stories, but it lacked energy, and would sorta languish in between.
That got me thinking about what people who provide the dual-seeking or hidden agenda function do for a larger group as opposed to just one-on-one. I was wondering if anybody else had examples or thoughts about the difference in interaction of a group when there's somebody in the group who has your super-ego functions in their ego versus when you're hanging out in a group of people you like (possibly mirror/identity/kindred, but not necessarily), but who don't supply the Dual-seeking or HA function. Thoughts?