Quote from the book the everything enneagram book
Threes are the kingpins and the stars of their universe. When they bond with healthy mothers, they become the most authentic souls on the planet. When they bond with narcissistic mothers, they become sham artists, hawking false personas to hide undeveloped souls. They are hard driving achievers who claw their way to the top and crow when they get there. Unfortunately, they desperately want congratulations and adoration from the people they just worked so hard to beat. When self-actualized, threes attract others with their magnetic personalities; when pathological, their narcissism drives others away.
I was lucky enough to grow up with a very nurturing, humble and honest ISFj-Se enneagram 1 mother whom I have bonded very close to and is the most important person in my life. throughout my life I do feel pulled towards a certain persona to fit in and adapt to social situations. But there is always doubts of doing the right thing for myself, even if it goes to contradict what is socially being accepted. Maybe because I have never grow up with a male role model/father figured and I may have learned to be the person my mother raised me to be? I was lucky enough some people think that I am a open person, and being very authentic with myself, which I think it all relates to how my mother has raised me (Nobody has control over this and vice versa) . What do other threes think about this? if they are willing to share.
By the way I think everyone who is interested in Socionics/Enneagram should definity check out this book which relates a lot of general psychology with the enneagram system.