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    OK, is this just in Cyclops land, or has anyone else noticed this?

    It's my experience that girls who are a little on the chubbier side tend to be more kind hearted, considerate and thoughtful, also friendlier than thin girls.

    Dunno why this is, it could be biological, or maybe the fatter girls feel they have to compensate personality wise to be more attractive as people as they are not regarded as being as attractive physically as the thin ones. Maybe it's something like how fat guys are usually funnier, they have to make up with other ways to attract a mate.

    It occured to me that maybe the chubby ones, if they lost weight, might become hard-asses like the thin ones, so maybe their personality isn't fixed.

    Is it hormonal or mental?

    Maybe options are:

    1. Date a skinny bitch who's a pain in the ass.
    2. Date a fat person who's nice and worth sticking around with.

    Of course there are exceptions to this rule i'm sure, but it seems to me to be quite a recurring pattern, almost always the case in round here.

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    I haven't found this to be the case...a lot of fat people are bitter.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    I haven't found this to be the case...a lot of fat people are bitter.
    A lot of thin people pretend to be jerks to fit in.

    Stereotypes ftw.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Coolanzon View Post
    A lot of thin people pretend to be jerks to fit in.

    Stereotypes ftw.
    True I guess.

    I think there is something to what Cyclops is saying, but I don't think it's really a strong trend.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    True I guess.

    I think there is something to what Cyclops is saying, but I don't think it's really a strong trend.
    I'm going to take back "a lot".

    But, funny story.

    I saw these two girls. One was charging off in front, and the other was lagging behind, looking not too happy. I love imagining what their circumstances were. Both were dressed up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by krae View Post
    Lol still Akra butthurt.
    I was thinking of an IEI who hangs out with people who wear drainpipes and take snarks at random strangers, actually.

    But yeah T_T

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    No, Weight is irrelevant to disposition. Chubby girls have the same probability to turn out nice or mean as every one else does.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JWC3 View Post
    No, Weight is irrelevant to disposition. Chubby girls have the same probability to turn out nice or mean as every one else does.
    Solution: correlate weight to type. This is a socionics forum after all

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    Quote Originally Posted by krae View Post
    No, the probabilities are higher. And I don't think anybody is talking black and white 'nice' and 'mean'.
    I completely and whole heartedly disagree with you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    I haven't found this to be the case...a lot of fat people are bitter.
    qft. anyhow, the idea that one's weight makes one inherently nicer is complete b.s.
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    I don't think there's any sort of biological correlation or anything. I think that what people are noticing is actually socialization. A lot of thin women seem bitchier because a lot of them think they're hot shit because society tells them so. A lot of chubbier women are constantly put down by society and are either bitter about it or overly nice to try to compensate for what they see as physical unattractiveness. I find that really lame, and not even true for the most part because I know plenty of guys who like bigger girls. But if you watch TV or movies, it's generally all about thin women.
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    Yeah, and fair hair people are shown as more intelligent than brown hair, which are smarter than people with black hair, Italians, etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    Do you remember the "Friends" TV series?
    Good point. The only reason hot, thin Monica could date weak loser Chandler was because she was fat as a teenager, and hence not a bitch like life-long underweight Rachel.
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    that is what i was getting at. if there is an inescapable appropriation that is required in the act of understanding, this brings into question the validity of socionics in describing what is real, and hence stubborn contradictions that continue to plague me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JWC3 View Post
    No, Weight is irrelevant to disposition. Chubby girls have the same probability to turn out nice or mean as every one else does.
    I agree that, as a general trend, their is no correlation between weight and disposition; however, I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that, as Cyclops is saying, sometimes a fat person will be "nicer" because they feel like their physical appearance loses them ground that they have to recover in other ways. I also think that fat people are sometimes bitter because they feel like they've been dealt shitty cards. These are just some plausible explanations for why some people are the way they are; not necessarily sweeping generalizations.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    I agree that, as a general trend, their is no correlation between weight and disposition; however, I don't think it's unreasonable to assume that, as Cyclops is saying, sometimes a fat person will be "nicer" because they feel like their physical appearance loses them ground that they have to recover in other ways. I also think that fat people are sometimes bitter because they feel like they've been dealt shitty cards. These are just some plausible explanations for why some people are the way they are; not necessarily sweeping generalizations.
    Sure, there are plenty of weight related explantations for reasons that someone who is over weight might behave in one way or another. And all of what you said is valid but I very heavily doubt that any reason a over-weight person has to be bitter, nice, or any other disposition is going to be any more influential or imposing than a reason that some one who is not over-weight has.

    For example say a over-weight person was teased in HS, and a non-overweight person was also teased but for non weight related reasons.

    Out of those two people, who is more likely to be bitter or nice? It's impossible to tell because you cannot in anyway shape or form base a conclusion on some ones disposition based on size alone.
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    Right, agreed.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Cyclops, are you chubby? Maybe this is why chubby girls are nicer to you?

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    There's scientific proof of this actually. At least for rats.
    A history of caloric restriction induces neurochemical and behavioral changes in rats consistent with models of depression
    So hungry, so sad: Calorie restriction and depression Ouroboros
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    Right, agreed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JWC3 View Post
    I like you
    Because I agree with you?
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    Because I agree with you?
    Yup lol That and I can assume that since you agree with me you also understood me. Truth be told I came back into this thread ready to prove my point in about 3 different ways, the fact that I didn't have to was what prompted my original "I like you"
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    Quote Originally Posted by JWC3 View Post
    Yup lol That and I can assume that since you agree with me you also understood me. Truth be told I came back into this thread ready to prove my point in about 3 different ways, the fact that I didn't have to was what prompted my original "I like you"
    Hah!

    Well, I do try...
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Well, a girl that doesn't hold herself back excessively with food is less likely to be bitchy because of low blood sugar, excessive self-control, etc.

    Basically, what I've found is: if a girl is naturally a bit chubby, but becomes skinny due to hard dieting, she will be kind of bitchy. In this case, the chubby girl that embraces her natural body type will be a generally better person, less inhibited, etc.

    However, if a skinny girl is naturally skinny (fast metabolism, etc) - that doesn't lower her chances of being nice w.r.t to the second girl described above.

    Now, how does this may tie into Cyclops observation? By adding the fact that girls, on average, tend to be more on the chubby side rather than on the skinny side. So, in a population with equal percentages of chubby and skinny, most of the chubby-s will be naturally so, thus less stressed, anxious and inhibited, while part of the population of the skinny ones would have been naturally chubby. If we add that this part is also likely the most concerned about appearance, and thus most likely to be "out there", the Cyclops observation seems to hold true, even if perhaps the root of the problem is less simple.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fear of sleep View Post
    There's scientific proof of this actually. At least for rats.

    So hungry, so sad: Calorie restriction and depression Ouroboros
    This study fails to account for other possibilities for their depression: being stuck in lab, not being able to join a raid on WoW, forgetting to TiVo The Rescuers, and more importantly, the ever pervasive frustration of "not getting any," though scientists are likely misinterpreting what rats meant by this response.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mimosa Pudica View Post
    And to the guys thinking there is a correlation - you are just showing your own insecurities here.... Maybe it's YOU who are nicer with chubby girls, as in threating them as people and not as sex objects? Maybe the answer you get is more pleasant because of YOUR way of being? Think about it.
    Or equally, maybe it's easier to just skip straight past the desirable and unobtainable. The human brain is remarkably easy to reprogram, but doing so tends to leave marks and traces.

    Anyway, there's merit enough in this thread for discussing the sort of visual cues we take in to make judgments about people before actually meeting them.

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    sometimes girls will be bitches to you just because they're tired of getting hit on, according to the venusian handbook
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    Weight changes hormone levels. Hormones change mood. So does sugar levels, so does feeling hungry, there also numerous other factors that most of you are overlooking.
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    Skinny girls are the devil! The deeevill!

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    Chubby men are nice too.

    However flat-out OBESE people tend to be bitches.

    Being chubby is endearing. Being a whale is not.

    Guys/girls who are too hot tend to be narcissists with way too many issues. Average looking/chubby people that are cute tend to make the best romantic partners.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    Average looking/chubby people that are cute tend to make the best romantic partners.
    Yes. Personality totally doesn't matter.

    Doormats are so hot right now.

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    Who said anything about doormats?

    Also personality is Latin for mask. It's a facade. That you should try to look through. Personality doesn't mean jack shit compared to genuine empathy and loyalty.

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    Sorry, I was joking around. It's just funny to think of the comment you made as being the same sort of physically-based judgement that makes people go after the hot ones.

    Anyway, I'd lump empathy and loyalty under "personality". But then we just get into a semantics debate. /shrug

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyclops View Post
    OK, is this just in Cyclops land, or has anyone else noticed this?

    It's my experience that girls who are a little on the chubbier side tend to be more kind hearted, considerate and thoughtful, also friendlier than thin girls.
    .
    Not type related.

    Chubby girls may develop a sense of compassion towards others like themselves who have been picked on and deemed uncool because of their appearance. But on the other hand, they can become bitches for a similar reason. Its two sides of the same coin.
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    I LOVE chubby men. Seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    I LOVE chubby men. Seriously.
    Chubby men love you too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    I LOVE chubby men. Seriously.
    Sure, perhaps it's caused by the way you see the world (). I bet girls with dominant love chubby african-americans, whereas girls with dominant logic () love slim boys
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    I haven't found this to be the case...a lot of fat people are bitter.
    yep

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