So last night I had dinner with a group of women that was supposed to be kind of a celebration to the end of a kids' program we ran. A couple of the women I know well and others I don't know very well. There were 7 of us total.
pretty sure LII
no idea--some sensing type
So basically the ESI, LII and I were having a good time. The SLI and EII were very quiet through the whole night and it almost seemed like they wanted to go home but were too polite to leave early. The LIE arrived late and drew everyone's attention to her immediately. She would say something and the ESI and I would react (usually me with laughter and the ESI with some strong opinion). Once the LIE arrived, the LII faded a bit more into the background and the conversation kind of became between the ESI and LIE with me laughing and injecting a comment here or there. It was like everyone else bowed out. Very weird!
But what probably interested me the most was my own reaction to the EII. She and I know each other in another context and one-on-one we're okay friends. But last night it was clear to me that she and I really don't click, especially in social situations. She's kind of formal, pretty serious, doesn't get into the emotional atmosphere much at all. And I couldn't help thinking to myself how boring she is. ugh, I feel awful saying that. And I would never say that to anyone who knew her in real life, but I have to admit that I thought the EII and SLI were putting a huge damper on the general emotional atmosphere. I found myself thinking "why am I the only one amused?" I hate it when it's supposed to be fun, a party or whatever, and people just sit there, not participating. I mean, it's fine. I just find myself walking away thinking "hmmm, they aren't very fun". And then I feel bad. Because they're very nice people and have a lot to offer but... gosh it's just so weird to see socionics in real life and realize how you can't get away from it. You value what you value, no matter how hard you try to appreciate everyone for their strengths and qualities, you're still going to be drawn to some over others. Makes me feel powerless somehow. Powerless over my own feelings and friendships and affections.