Ah, so you are willing to hear some in depth commentary, that's good.
Originally Posted by Sereno
WARNING: SOME OF MY POSTS IN THIS THREAD MAY BE "VERY BLUNT"
In this post, I'm talking about purely physical things.
In reality, physical things are not the only thing that matter...
A real relationship is much, much, more than looks.
But since you asked....
There was a very good description of weight and physical appearance for LSEs somewhere, one of the profiles, somewhere in the articles section. Maybe I'll look for it, or you can find it. (Some other good articles might be things related to the erotic natures, or the LSE male/female portrayals. I know you're not looking for socionics based things, but they do offer insight as to why, psychologically, some things are appealing and some things are not).
Unless you really ask for some objective, "all LSEs" type of remark, I'm going to comment from here on in terms of my personal preferences. I know my preferences very well and will talk your ear off about them if you prompt me to do so.
I will start with what that profile said about weight and physical appearance, and agree with what I remember: weight is a factor. It simply is (granted, I'm a guy... I think women are less forgiving about this, but, like I said, I'm not modifying my comments). Weight is a factor because it's related to "tidiness" as that profile said, which means, if someone is really obese, they're being very inefficient and gluttonous in their eating. That's just not appealing. It isn't. I'm not averse to being friends with someone who's fat, but in terms of a relationship, especially something intimate, I want a certain level of physical attraction.
I have such strong preferences that it is ultimately unappealing for me to pretend like my preferences are insiginificant (it might seem obvious, but think about what I said). I just can't pretend like something doesn't matter to me that does.
Now, the important question of what my weight preferences are...
I don't like obese people. Obese meaning obviously overweight. Since I'm not actually sure what that translates into, I'll use pictures.
See, this is a good picture. This is kind of a borderline. Initially, she's not appealing to me, she's more chunky than I'd prefer. But, I wouldn't be totally averse to her. She seems to be fairly toned and might be trying to work out or lose weight, which I respect. As is, I might actually go out with her and be attracted to her. She's definitely not the kind of girl I generally would 'look at', but, I can respect her. And that's really what a lot of someone's physical appearance has to do with - respect. I get a sense from this picture that she respects herself and cares about herself and her health (that may not be true, but I'm talking about superficial understandings here).
Hmm... most of the women there I'd never really consider. They might respect themselves, but I don't really see them caring enough about things, to my preferences. It just makes me think of sloppiness and gluttony in a very unflattering way. I respect them because they're dressed up, and that's very nice -- I have no feeling to berate them or shout FATTY at them. But there's just physically nothing there that attracts me, and I don't think I could get physically involved with someone like that.
On the other hand, I don't actually like girls that are toooo skinny. It grosses me out.
I would consider something with her because she seems generally in shape, and I think she has a fairly pretty face (faces are big for me, faces and eyes especially). But I'd have absolutely no problem if she put on some weight. If she's just naturally skinny, that's ok, too - just like if someone is naturally a bit heavyset. I'd actually prefer it if she gained a bit of weight.
Eh, the 'fashion runway model' type never really got to me. They seem way too skinny, and I don't see the appeal. I wouldn't 'not date her' because of her physical features (which probably would be the case for someone very obese). But it's not at all appealing, honestly. The legs on those models seem way too thin... almost malnourished :/
So, what do I really like...?
To tell you the truth, I like the looks of just about every EII on the forum, that I've seen.
Granted, most people on the forum are fairly attractive, too. But I can't think of an EII that I've seen on the forum who was physically unappealing.
For a general picture... All of those are fine, really. They're all acceptable, even attractive. They're feminine enough, not too overweight. The "women's ideal" looks most appealing, from this picture. (although, maybe it's just the shape of her body or the pose, but, the national average woman looks better than the men's ideal woman). If you really want a picture of OMG PERFECT BODY, I can find some of those, but, not sure if that's necessary.