victim: drops some random comment about tears in an email
aggressor: asks directly what the tears were about
victim: says she can't explain but she'll be fine
aggressor: later that week clearly pokes around for the answer
victim: hints but doesn't come out with it. changes the subject.
aggressor: following week asks again what it is and takes a stab at it, talking about his own related experience
victim: thinks this is cute and tells him what it's generally about but with no details. changes the subject.
aggressor: 20 minutes later says he's sorry if it's none of his business but he cares, and continues talking about it.
victim: very quiet, unsure
aggressor: talks more about his own experience and offers a shot at advice
victim: finally opens up, knowing he must care about her to keep pestering!