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    Post IEIs/INFps expressing their emotions: repress or explode?

    Some types get angry and sometimes explode and yell, and maybe even throw things.

    Does the IEI type repress their emotions? Is it rare for an IEI to explode/have an angry outburst?

    I may be the INFp/IEI type and am wondering about this because I RARELY have outbursts like this and handle emotions internally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pga tour View Post
    I may be the INFp/IEI type and am wondering about this because I RARELY have outbursts like this and handle emotions internally.
    Dr. Buddy Rydell: Dave, there are two kinds of angry people - explosive and implosive. Explosive is the type of individual you see screaming at the cashier for not taking his coupon. Implosive is the cashier who remains quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store. You're the cashier.
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    I'm the guy in frozen goods dialling 911, I swear.

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    yeah, i've often wondered about that too...

    it goes that EIEs tend to hold in a lot more, i think... but uh.. they don't explode. i believe they are pretty good at holding in stuff.

    but umm... I think the Fe creative explosion thing is common-ish-- at least for undeveloped IEIs. or unhealthy and really stressed out ones?

    it could possibly be not type-related as well though, but i think sometimes the intensity of the emotion is just too intense so they're like

    "fuck everything" and they express it. rashly.

    i've done that a few times (at my current age level)--but only with those i trust to see me vulnerable, and then other times i've just held it in...but usually.. eventually, i have to get it out of my system and share it with a friend, but i dont explode, unless i think they're being dumb... or immature or inconsiderate. (i do not use "dumb" in the conventional way in this context.) usually i can just share whats bothering me with a very close friend, in a calm but expressive manner that lets me release a lot of stress. however, usually i try not to because i don't like being dependent on others to release stress. i like to be able to cope independently.

    to support what i said about not being as developed or w/e; yeah-- when i was younger, i'd explode almost always when i was in a negative emotional state. but i've matured and pretty much internalize my emotions and deal with it on my own the way you say you do. (or at least i try to..... )

    i've spoken with IEIs who just let it all out without regard to the effect they'll have on me, or to what they are actually saying... they're probably the 4s or maybe even 6s (disclaimer: it's a fuckin joke. not a legit generalisation.)

    and then there's the 4 so's (most likely) or very possibly the 9s... or even just the 5 wing esp if social probably makes a difference... they are usually very peaceful and internalize things nicely. they're just "chill" all the time, and fun to be with and joke with easily. not so intense.

    i think thats an intimate thign as well... by intimate i mean "sx" on the enneagram... the need for the ups and downs. i know i do that shit naturally... but like i said, i've grown.

    so i'm not really sure what factor determines whether or not IEIs most often express what is most bothering them or if they just internalize it and let it pass or cope in whatever-else way.

    i'll say the idealistic and "politically correct" thing, i think...
    Whether a person explodes or not varies from one individual to the next-- regardless of type! xD

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    Quote Originally Posted by pluie View Post
    yeah, i've often wondered about that too...

    it goes that EIEs tend to hold in a lot more, i think... but uh.. they don't explode. i believe they are pretty good at holding in stuff.

    but umm... I think the Fe creative explosion thing is common-ish-- at least for undeveloped IEIs. or unhealthy and really stressed out ones?

    it could possibly be not type-related as well though, but i think sometimes the intensity of the emotion is just too intense so they're like

    "fuck everything" and they express it. rashly.

    i've done that a few times (at my current age level)--but only with those i trust to see me vulnerable, and then other times i've just held it in...but usually.. eventually, i have to get it out of my system and share it with a friend, but i dont explode, unless i think they're being dumb... or immature or inconsiderate. (i do not use "dumb" in the conventional way in this context.) usually i can just share whats bothering me with a very close friend, in a calm but expressive manner that lets me release a lot of stress. however, usually i try not to because i don't like being dependent on others to release stress. i like to be able to cope independently.

    to support what i said about not being as developed or w/e; yeah-- when i was younger, i'd explode almost always when i was in a negative emotional state. but i've matured and pretty much internalize my emotions and deal with it on my own the way you say you do. (or at least i try to..... )

    i've spoken with IEIs who just let it all out without regard to the effect they'll have on me, or to what they are actually saying... they're probably the 4s or maybe even 6s (disclaimer: it's a fuckin joke. not a legit generalisation.)

    and then there's the 4 so's (most likely) or very possibly the 9s... or even just the 5 wing esp if social probably makes a difference... they are usually very peaceful and internalize things nicely. they're just "chill" all the time, and fun to be with and joke with easily. not so intense.

    i think thats an intimate thign as well... by intimate i mean "sx" on the enneagram... the need for the ups and downs. i know i do that shit naturally... but like i said, i've grown.

    so i'm not really sure what factor determines whether or not IEIs most often express what is most bothering them or if they just internalize it and let it pass or cope in whatever-else way.

    i'll say the idealistic and "politically correct" thing, i think...
    Whether a person explodes or not varies from one individual to the next-- regardless of type! xD

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    yeah i think everyone has those times.

    i1m trying to figure out which type i am, which is why i asked that question.

    i have it narrowed down to:
    INFP
    INFJ
    ENFP
    ENTP

    not sure tho, i think im more of a chilled out type so they may rule out the ENFp (but chilled/relax state could also not be a factor in types)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gulanzon View Post
    I'm the guy in frozen goods dialling 911, I swear.
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    NEVER would I explode in public. Even at home, I rarely flip out. I think things tend to build and then they come out in other ways (like a good long cry when I'm in the shower). But generally speaking, I dislike showing my emotions to others. Even my best friends. One of the best things about time with my dual is that he calms me down completely. No matter what's going on in my life. I don't feel stressed out at all. Almost to the point of feeling so peaceful, I'm comatose! It's weird. And sometimes when I want to talk to someone, I'll think oh, I'll wait and tell him (the SLE) but then once I'm with him I don't feel the need to say it anymore because it just doesn't matter, I'm so calm and happy. Anyway, so I'm not the one screaming at the cashier, I'm not really the cashier either (and I'm not the guy in frozen foods, lol). I guess I'm the guy stocking the cigarettes who just gets tired of it and steals a candy bar.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sigma View Post
    Dr. Buddy Rydell: Dave, there are two kinds of angry people - explosive and implosive. Explosive is the type of individual you see screaming at the cashier for not taking his coupon. Implosive is the cashier who remains quiet day after day and then finally shoots everyone in the store. You're the cashier.
    haahahaha

    why are there so many IEIs out there, arent they only supposed to make 1% of the US population?

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    Quote Originally Posted by pga tour View Post
    haahahaha

    why are there so many IEIs out there, arent they only supposed to make 1% of the US population?
    I think that's wrong.
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    I've seen some scary things from IEI's... though, they probably weren't the healthiest of people.

    By the way, this quote applies to me very well, in general:

    "I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
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    In my experience they are very internal about it and it drives me insane. I suppose I'd rather have it all right now like with SEI.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Banana Pancakes View Post
    In my experience they are very internal about it and it drives me insane. I suppose I'd rather have it all right now like with SEI.
    Um, SEIs can be very internal about it also. fyi.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    I've seen some scary things from IEI's... though, they probably weren't the healthiest of people.

    By the way, this quote applies to me very well, in general:

    "I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
    — Marilyn Monroe

    yeah, great quote. and i identify with it as well. i've seen it before, but where i saw it they didn't add her name at the end; that's awesome its from her.
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    SHUT THE FnCK UP!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    "I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
    — Marilyn Monroe
    How are IEIs out of control? This doesn't seem very like them. You mean crazy and dancing everywhere?

    Maybe when they're "alone" I typically perceive IEIs as quite reserved, somewhat of a pissed off person, but pretty emotional nonetheless. Never out of control, just irrational like other IPs. Stubborn, leave me to my mode etc. They come off as very nice people actually.

    If I wanted to get "out of control" I wouldn't be a lazy IP. Out of control seems more of an extroverted trait. I don't want to take this too subjectively however. Perhaps I'm just being a guy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    Um, SEIs can be very internal about it also. fyi.
    Yes I agree on that point. I dont see how SEIs can be necessarily "all right now."

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    Quote Originally Posted by polikujm View Post
    How are IEIs out of control? This doesn't seem very like them. You mean crazy and dancing everywhere?

    Maybe when they're "alone" I typically perceive IEIs as quite reserved, somewhat of a pissed off person, but pretty emotional nonetheless. Never out of control, just irrational like other IPs. Stubborn, leave me to my mode etc. They come off as very nice people actually.

    If I wanted to get "out of control" I wouldn't be a lazy IP. Out of control seems more of an extroverted trait. I don't want to take this too subjectively however. Perhaps I'm just being a guy.
    lol, have you ever actually lived with an IEI?

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    what's also scary is that Zhukov trusts them more with the more basic food preparation, while in contrast the presentation gone awray is less likely to kill someone (outside of 1930's Poland anyway).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    lol, have you ever actually lived with an IEI?



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    Lmao yeah seriously... IEIs are fuckin' cuhhhh razyyyy


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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    lol, have you ever actually lived with an IEI?
    Mostly male IEIs. I picture the composer Chopin, even as a young arrival, never too outwardly expressive with negative rebellion, or even plainly wild positive emotion. I don't see that as a prime objective in a young male, and an element that would likely be downplayed. You could make a case for irrational females though, since females can be more emotionally expressive so more inclined to get into trouble with their emotions, if there is a problem to begin with, and I'm not saying males don't either. It has more to do with the biological statistics of maturity from what I've seen regarding "ethical" types. I'd have a hard time picturing a wild IEI, as all of the IEIs I know are quite reserved emotionally, even the females. There in lies calmness within them, for they seek to make quite positive impressions of their subordinate external matters. Other betas, like SLE, I can see how they could be wild and crazy externally with their emotions. SEIs are more inclined to act in this manner too because their primary function deals with external things. I don't think IEIs are wild and crazy, but I could see how there could be some wild and crazy IEIs. Just seems like more of a question of maturity, and immature girls are more inclined to be wild and crazy with their emotions. But I'm not saying that's bad

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    An IEI guy I know never has emotional outbursts, instead he just sulks and waits for people to ask him what's wrong. On the other hand, I'm known to explode, but I have no idea which beta irrational I am any more (thanks, Mimosa ).
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    I generally don't do the whole outburst thing, but I am cool with acting crazy when the moment presents itself. I actually like to be "out of control," a little bit, or at least not so concerned with my superego (in the Freudian sense, rather than the socionics sense). But actually I'm notorious among my friends for not ever "getting angry," which is not true. Apparently I had a relatively bad temper when I was a little kid. Now I tend to do private outbursts of whatever emotion when I'm by myself, as opposed to public outbursts. In public I just tend to be mean instead of nice. But I do act "crazy," just not in the outburst of anger way.

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