A few additional SX One descriptions I've found. The first one by CN sounds closer to SX/SP 1 and even SP/SX 1 with social-last undertones. The second one is closer to SX/SO 1 with a pronounced SX subtype (the
'fireside' sx/so).
Claudio Naranjo on SX 1s: "I'm going to start with the Sexual 1 first. Oscar Ichazo, from whom I learned, called the issue here in Spanish with the word "silo" [sp?]. This word in Spanish has a double translation, and it took me a while to realize that one is more relevant that the other. It's "estrus", it's "estrus" and "zeal" at the same time. It's like the quality of an animal in heat. It's an especial intensity of desire. You can say that anger potentates desire. Anger infuses any of the desires of the person with a special intensity. The person feels "I HAVE to have it. I have the RIGHT to." There are many people who ... well we have collectively behaved very much like that at some times, like when the emerald or the diamond mines in South Africa were exploited by the Europeans, and it was argued by some that this was not just, that it belonged to Africans: why should this wealth go to Europe? Many people with complete conviction said: "But what use could it have for them? They don't have culture. It obviously belongs to us because we know what to do - we are civilized." So there are people who have this mind of a conquistador, like the Spanish conquistarores - in the name of the most holy emperor, the most Christian king, needed to take all the gold from the Aztecs ... You can say it is a passion, it is a need, but it's almost inseparable to a sense of feeling "having a right to". I'll tell you a little anecdote, that finished making this clear for me, there was a young man in one my groups who was saying: "When I was 6 I liked putting my penis between my sister's buttocks. And my mother said "Don't do that!". And I said "Why not?"" I had never heard that answer from a little boy: "Why not?" In the culture where we live, there is so much anti-sexual sentiment, the sinfulness of sex is so pervasive that it's very hard not to feel caught, not to feel dirty, not to feel a victim, not to run away. It's traumatic to be already seen. But the Sexual 1 can have that attitude: "why not". It's the intensity of the desire itself that makes rationalization almost imperative. So this is a kind of a rhinoceros of a person: "go to it!". Very different from the Social subtype.
According to Naranjo the counter-phobic subtype of Type 1 is the Sexual (SX) 1 that is more likely to express their anger without repression and shame:
"Maybe I should say at this point that in every case, in every point of the enneagram, there are two subtypes that represent the passion, and there is one that is upside down: there is a counter-passion type. You all know of a character known as counter-phobic, described also in psychoanalysis. It's a kind of 6, the kind of 6 that is unafraid. There is a fairy tale in Grimm Brother's collection - John who was not afraid of anything ... I don't know the English titles, I read in Spanish ... there's a kind of characterization of some people as "here goes the hero, here comes the person who is unafraid and bold, bold and forward", and maybe ignores, maybe is even out of touch with his fear, or perhaps bluffs and doesn't just show it. That is true of every point in the Enneagram."
Sexual 1: "Zeal" - Sexual 1s focus on perfecting others; they are more reformers than perfectionists. The only 1 who is explicitly angry, they act out of anger through their intense desire to improve others and get what they want. They feel entitled in the way a reformer or zealot feels entitled: they believe that they have a right to change society and get what they want because they have a higher understanding of the truth and the reasons behind “the right way to be.” The countertype of the 1s, they are more impulsive and outwardly angry; they go against the “counter-instinctive” tendency of the 1 to repress anger and impulses.
1 SX - Sexual/Feeling 1
Anger that feels like fire. A white hot rage that seizes their guts if a relationship is threatened.
Sexual jealousy is acted out in an angry, possessive way. A threat to sanctioned pleasure is maddening. "How dare you take what's rightfully mine!"
1's have difficulty recognizing what they want and in allowing themselves to have pleasure, that any threat to gratification feels like losing a lifeline.
You've earned the right to be loved. You deserve sexual pleasure. You're angry to being compared to a rival.
If you have been perfect there would be no contest.
This is anger directed to those who take what the want without necessarily deserving it.
This is permissible anger, based on the misconduct of associates or a mate.
The focal point is fidelity, but jealousy extends far beyond a sexual agreement. You can be jealous of people who get promoted, whose ideas are taken more seriously, who are popular at work.
There is a need to feel right. You work hard at it and feel jealous when you're not validated.
Saying "I deserve recognition" or "You should have paid attention to me" feels safer than "I want" or "I need".
It is unthinkable to reach out openly and take what you want; but in cases of misconduct, "this has to be stopped" replaces the forbidden thought "I want to have".
Monitoring the mates actions and of critically judging whatever comes between the self and the mate. Once a genuine connection has been made, any threat from the outsider feels as if a lifeline is being cut.
When desire for another can be honestly felt, any interference brings up intense possessiveness.
Partner idealized. React with jealous judgment if their beloved acts in less-than-ideal ways.
Try to control partner. Watch every step and fear that others might be more attractive to their partners. Inside they boil with jealousy and fear loss, but are unable to admit and express this imperfect feeling. The jealousy comes from the fear that another could be more perfect.
Jealousy quickly becomes possessive. You can't drop it.
You have to check up, you must go see, you have to know exactly who said what to whom. You want names and dates. You want confrontation. The rival shouldn't be here.
Obsessively comparing themselves with others.
Likes the intensity of being fully and passionately engaged with another person.
Jealousy (rivalry centered around perfection; explosive expression or total repression of criticalness)
Sex with anger/jealousy. Takes sexual energy into zeal. A passion to do things right, to give brilliance to one's being. A passion for being righteous and to do something perfectly. The true reformer.
Can appear 8ish and assertive. More unconventional and most free of the 1's to show anger. Criticism is directed outward. Can have sadistic fantasies.
May be possessive and jealous of mate and very self critical in comparing self against potential rival for mate; also angry and resentful of others who just take what they want.
Shared standards. Idealization of partnership. Desire to find perfect person. "Till death do us part". Expect partner, family, friend, to be perfect-common set on standards. Disappointment when others don't measure up, so they must push others to share their standards. Proper-fears others will fall short. Emphasis on fidelity. Constant fears of abandonment. Even with others feels lonely. Don't spoil our perfection. Difficult to justify sexual instinct need. Idealized mate to fully express intimacy. Constant checking on-where were you? Accounting for others' time. Undermine others so that they are needed. Erupt out of control. The other causes me to be obsessed. Pushing self on others. Purge desire nature. Idealization. Platonic-pure relationships. Virginal withholding.
The sexual 1 had the strongest identification with 4. The felt they need to have the perfect mate, and the idealized relationship. The sexual 1 went on to explain that the sanctity of having perfect love gave a real sense of brilliance, alivenesses, and freedom. However any violation to an intimate relationship was devastating, generating the white hot heat of humiliation and feeling of despair. The sexual 1 saw themselves as more powerful than the other 1's describing an 8 like accessibility to anger when they knew they were right or felt violated.
Feeling of being cleansed and freed with the expression of repressed anger.
Response when entering or during a relationship is the belief that I am hopelessly flawed and imperfect and unworthy of the other, who is idealized--attribute to the other a perfection that the other could not possibly have and short-change myself. This belief is what generates that insecurity, jealousy and possessiveness.
Can be supportive and forgiving, as well as forbearing. Patient and even playful and joking with other are part of the idealized connection.
I think most of us here have agreed to Jordan Peterson being a real life example of One SX.
Enneagram type 1 with dominant sexual instinct - SX One
Originally Posted by Jarno
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