how are you?
did you do anything for easter.
how was your weekend.
have you got much planned for the weekend.
etc etc etc
all those kinds of questions..
Now I've been thinking about such things a little bit recently. Different people respond with different amounts of information.
I myself find I change how or what I say depending on who asks, and how they ask.
Anyway, so it's only Tuesday, and so far three girls have asked me how easter was, and the first one kind of paused before hand, and wasn't too pushy, and I've seen her way more often.
But then the second girl, I don't really remember her very well, but she seems kind of intrusive. And it's like she was ready to respond to me not doing much.
Anyway, it's like to be honest, my weekend was pretty good in the end. And it's more that I'm hesitant to be "positive" with people, or to express too much...
But anyway, it got me thinking. Like the other day my brother was saying that you're meant to just say "not too bad", "fine", "good" etc in response to questions like that.
And i myself tend to be a fan of "not too bad", but with soem people, it's like they seem to actually try and push you to say more. And then some people if you ask them, they'll say more etc.
Anyway, I happen to know with my brother for instance, that even with me, if I'm like "how are you", "how's it going", "what have you been up to" etc .. he's pretty brief. Whereas some other people can be quite "long".
So anyway - like with some people - I can be really glib, and just throw out "how are you?" and people will kind of freeze on the spot for a moment, and "look different" and then suddenly start expressing how they are ...
And it's like shit, is that what I was asking for. But at the same time, it's like you can get a handle on their state. Where they're at etc. But at the same time you can also kind of smooth over these things.
I myself am not really an expert at these things. When I was young, I used to get asked how I was a lot. A *LOT*. It'd be like, someone would come up to me and be like "how are you doing?"
And I'd be like, "I feel like punching something", or "You should learn to stop asking so many questions", or "If I wanted you to know I'd tell you".
But like, sometimes I remember in my youth, that people would say "burned" and so on, if you responded like that.
But really, how are you meant to respond, if people keep wanting to ask you how you are, how your weekend was blah blah, and try and pry into your affairs. I mean you could be like "I raped a cat, it screamed a lot, but I think it's going to live" or "You don't mean anything to me".
But really at the end of the day, everyone's just trying to get along, get on, movement, steady movement, staying strong, staying alive blah blah.
Where do you all stand on small talk.