I'd like to have a serious discourse about public passivity.
I am very socially passive. Type B personality, definitely. However it's kind of the thing where, people usually like to make me angry to shake me up, like when they see me talk back to people or get a little angry they sometimes clap, or say how I'm 'showing my true colors.' I hate this, because I just want nothing more than to be accepted as a passive person.
Yes, I'm well aware you can't have sexual or social chemistry being 'nice' or polite all the time. However, I don't care. When I first meet a person, I like to be polite and homely with them, it's just how I am. I don't like to rant and rave about the latest social injustices like a cracked out urban homeless person on meth. I prefer a much more 'personal responsibility' approach to things and gentle encouraging and nudging. My 'real self' is so much different than my Ni-ego in my writing.
However I'm 6'2" and (reasonably) masculine looking. So the idea of me carrying myself as passive doesn't seem to bode well for me socially, and maybe- the whole thing of me thinking myself as submissive is all in my head anyway.
I don't know.
I am socially smart and knowledgeable and have been able to show dominance 'that way' but as an intuitive introvert, I don't exactly have the very best physical presence. Or one at all, really.
The thing of it is. I haven't ever been really outright attacked for being submissive. (and if I am, other people are usually quick to defend me) People always talk about all this taking advantage of the weak, etc. But that never really happened to me. How much of our 'nice guys finish last' thoughts are based on truth, or a cynical view of human nature? Yes, it invited bullying in my younger male years however nowadays - men have all gotten over that, and it's really not a big deal. Hmm.
(I didn't have a strong father figure like most yuk-yuks into psychology and I wonder how much of that effects me sometimes.)