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    Default INFj/ESTj hobbies?

    Trying to broaden my horizons a bit, get out of the house more. Problem is, I'm having a hard time figuring out just where to start. There's just so much I could do, I don't even have an idea where to start. I'm usually happy to just try whatever my friends are doing at the time. So much more fun than just hooking up with randoms; I have trouble opening up around new people, at least until I've gotten to know them a bit, or a friend's with me, so... iono. How do I found more deltas to hang out with?

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    I think you should stick to having fun with your friends . Doing something in order to find more Deltas would probably not work out.
    I think in a lot of similar topics it was clear that most Deltas hang out with their friends/people they know well or simply alone at home or wherever. If you really want to meet new people Id take some classes, for example I take spanish classes even though I wont likely need to use that language, you can take photography or whatever else there is, the choices are endless.
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    That's the problem, really. Too much choice can be as bad, if not worse, than no choice at all. There are all these thousands of things that can be done, but I have no idea where to start, what I'd even like :S

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    Quote Originally Posted by Errant View Post
    Trying to broaden my horizons a bit, get out of the house more. Problem is, I'm having a hard time figuring out just where to start. There's just so much I could do, I don't even have an idea where to start. I'm usually happy to just try whatever my friends are doing at the time. So much more fun than just hooking up with randoms; I have trouble opening up around new people, at least until I've gotten to know them a bit, or a friend's with me, so... iono. How do I found more deltas to hang out with?
    So your question is how to find out more delta people, particularly ESTj/INFj?
    How does your title relate to your question?


    What I seem to do is just find them by way of being involved in doing stuff. Activities or groups - if you're in high school or college, join things. Both INFj and ESTj tend to like being busy or doing something 'productive', so putting work towards something they either think is important or like doing (or both).

    Also, most of my friendships tend to come via working with other people on/towards similar interests/concerns. You could apply this to religion, special interest, environmental groups, sports groups, cultural groups, whatever.
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    I think you'll find some deltas in just about any group. The ones I know are interested in everything from community service to motorcycles. I'd just go with what you're drawn to most, and don't worry about feeling awkward with the newness of it. It'll wear off. If you all have a similar interest, that will help spark conversation and open up other areas as you spend time around each other. I've noticed some of the longer-term friendships people have formed have come from community sports leagues or community service activities where people are involved for years instead of months or weeks.
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    I actually used to have NO delta friends So I went out and met a bunch and now I am much happier.

    They can be hard to spot at first, but if you pick an activity you are drawn to, there will prob be Deltas there...and then just hang w/ the people you feel most comfortable with. It takes a long time sometimes to find good friends but it is so worth it! I would try a bunch of different approaches and if they're activities you like then you'll have fun regardless.

    I've noticed ESTjs at social co-ed sports such as softball, company picnics, happy hours.

    INFjs at book clubs, seminars about people topics, coffee shops reading.
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    I've got an ESE friend and he owns a factory. I've been working there for a few days on personal stuff. I'm amazed because most people there are deltas. There is an SLI, an EII and another IEE. It's just a matter of time until my friend's daughter, an LSE, takes over the place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Errant View Post
    How do I found more deltas to hang out with?
    Ahh you live in Melbourne? My really good ESTj friend and his girlfriend are considering moving there so perhaps you can hang out with them. Actually there used to be an ENFp from the forum who moved there but i haven't seen him for ages. Shit what was his name.... yeah thats right Neon Monk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    How does your title relate to your question?
    Discussion/argument with Khola. She gets frustrated when I sit around at home. I think she thinks I expect her to organise an event or something. Wound up with her telling me that I should go find a new hobby, for purposes of meeting and greeting and becoming less terrified of new people and presumably not wasting my evenings, from her perspective.

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