Ethical types in Conflict relations

[Blaze]

i've noticed something kind of interesting about these lately.

the conflict is felt more acutely and possibly intensely by the ethical type in the relationship. the logical type appears to perceive the conflict, but due to their weaker ethics, doesn't feel it as strongly and so is more willing to overlook it or try to work with the ethical person anyway. the more the logical does this, the greater repulsion the ethical feels and the more the ethical withdraws.

anybody else notice this? ethicals, do you think i'm right?

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

I don't really agree with this. Imo, in conflict relationships you pretty much piss each other off mutually. But whoa the thing about the ethical type withdrawing makes sense, I think.

I think your theory makes sense if the logical type is in a position of authority over the ethical type, and is also their conflictor -- which happened to me on my first job. Nothing I ever did was ever good enough for that woman, and we never saw eye to eye on anything... but initially I thought we'd get along great. Jeesh, was I wrong.

If your conflictor is in the same social level as you are (ie coworker or acquaintance) I don't think your theory holds true though.

[redbaron]

I think you're right Blaze. And I think it's probably because the ethical type can sooner sense the way things are headed (no, that's probably my own talking)

[Blaze]

I don't really agree with this. Imo, in conflict relationships you pretty much piss each other off mutually. But whoa the thing about the ethical type withdrawing makes sense, I think.

I think your theory makes sense if the logical type is in a position of authority over the ethical type, and is also their conflictor -- which happened to me on my first job. Nothing I ever did was ever good enough for that woman, and we never saw eye to eye on anything... but initially I thought we'd get along great. Jeesh, was I wrong.

If your conflictor is in the same social level as you are (ie coworker or acquaintance) I don't think your theory holds true though.

yes....the conflicts do mutually piss each other off. but i'm saying the ethical type is more in touch with their repulsion. the logical type is in touch too, but less so, and, if the logical can see a logical reason to try to work together, then they will try to overlook the developing conflict, thinking that it can be overcome somehow due to whatever logical reason.

i hadn't noticed this dynamic happening between people of unequal authority, but i would think that when it does, the person in authority, as the leader, has to try to give their conflict greater latitude. the person in less authority can behave - almost - however they want.

[Blaze]

I think you're right Blaze. And I think it's probably because the ethical type can sooner sense the way things are headed (no, that's probably my own talking)

yes classic NiFe.

other ethicals:

FeNi
SiFe
FeSi
SeFi
FiSe
NeFi
FiNe

if you're ethical, list how you respond to your conflict...do you feel it first or do they? who withdraws first? who tries to overcome the conflict?

[Cuddly McFluffles]

I know it's been rather unanimous on here that I'm ENFp; and maybe I am. But one of the things I have noticed in dealing with my stepfather (who seems ESTj) is that when we do argue, it's like hitting my head against a wall. During the argument, we usually don't get anywhere. I mentioned how much he and I disagree on things, and he didn't think we did; he asked if maybe there were some things I was thinking (that he didn't know about). So if we are Conflictors, yeah, I feel it more than he does.

[redbaron]

I know it's been rather unanimous on here that I'm ENFp; and maybe I am. But one of the things I have noticed in dealing with my stepfather (who seems ESTj) is that when we do argue, it's like hitting my head against a wall. During the argument, we usually don't get anywhere. I mentioned how much he and I disagree on things, and he didn't think we did; he asked if maybe there were some things I was thinking (that he didn't know about). So if we are Conflictors, yeah, I feel it more than he does.

Oh! for some reason I thought you were INFp!

[DirectorAbbie]

i've noticed something kind of interesting about these lately.

the conflict is felt more acutely and possibly intensely by the ethical type in the relationship. the logical type appears to perceive the conflict, but due to their weaker ethics, doesn't feel it as strongly and so is more willing to overlook it or try to work with the ethical person anyway. the more the logical does this, the greater repulsion the ethical feels and the more the ethical withdraws.

anybody else notice this? ethicals, do you think i'm right?

Interresting possibility. I don't mind being around INFps, but we're not around each other much. They're a mentally kerfuddled bunch, which is kinda fun to observe.

[pluie]

yes classic NiFe.

other ethicals:

FeNi
SiFe
FeSi
SeFi
FiSe
NeFi
FiNe

if you're ethical, list how you respond to your conflict...do you feel it first or do they? who withdraws first? who tries to overcome the conflict?

ahh. the original description sounds exactly right. except... i would say my SLI withdraws first. he gives up, but doesn't give in.

i give IN first.

by this i mean that he won't bend his opinion but he'll give up on arguing.

and i'll end up apoligizing...
and the part where he over looks conflict because he believes some logical reason will fix it, sounds exactly right. and i definitely feel the pain more. he never seems to understand how much pain i really feel when he says things like "this is dumb" or "you're just being weird".

:/ we're getting out of a relationship we currently ended. ofcourse its impossible to end all relations abruptly, but it's fading, nonetheless. i'm not positive we're conflictors, but... eh.. looks like we are.

p.s.
i'm probably FeNi

he's either SLI or SLE. sometimes i just can't tell... but i suppose i'm leaning towards SLI-Si (very strong S in general)

[tereg]

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