Have you noticed that when your conflictor tries to make a joke to you, with good intention to try to lighten things up with you and them, you tend to get offended right when they said it, but then in a second thought they are actually trying to have a sense of humor with you, and when that second when they said it to you, you kind of freeze, you don't know if it was an insult or not, then as they have seen you react like this, they will tell you "just kidding", but still after they told you that they were kidding, you still get a heavy offended since you thought the joke was out of place. But it doesn't seem to be so bad with super-ego relationship, not that Super-ego relationship is anything better than conflicting relationship by any means.