Ok people I need help....yes this comes naturally I suppose, but I'm going to go ahead and use my HA agenda anyway on a cruise for more information....
How do I help an ILE who has come off the rails a little? I've known this person 5 years and to be honest I *REALLY* like him, if you get me. That aside, he just seems so....I'd say unhappy but that doesn't quite fit....he seems almost disturbed lately. Things have gone to crap for him in a lot of ways, and although he's coping I feel like a part of him is almost dying, and he is quite defensive, almost aggressive when I try to help and be supportive.
I've found just getting him out doing new things and running around seems to help, but I want to help him on a deeper level as well. I want him to come alive again and be happy, it's heart wrenching to see him like this when I've seen him in happier times.
It's as if he is trying to be a bad, cruel person when he is naturally a good person....almost to punish himself? It's hard figure out what is going on, but I suppose part of it is to throw people off guard and away from soft spots?
Help me how can I make it better? I mean I know people need to come to certain points in their life as far as happy spaces and understanding new things go on their own, but how can I facilate and encourage his healing and happyness? I really want ot be there for him without becoming a nuisance.
Ideas? Points of view? Similar situations?
Much appreciated <3