Up until quite recently, I completely shunned my brother's behaviour as being disrespectful, disorganised and heavily in need of discipline and structure in order to quell his more negative behavioural patterns. While I still retain the belief that his behaviour is contrary to that of which I would most approve, I've learned to view him in a different light. He is staunchly Ne/Si, I am staunchly Se/Ni, so it's quite clear that we're never going to completely "get along". I need my own space a lot of the time when in proximity with him, and he needs to avoid my "commanding" behaviour; I have a tendency to attempt to organise his lifestyle, and also to heavily criticise his way of life.
Nonetheless, I've recognised that what I deem as complete lack of respect is merely a different kind of respect. What I value, he, evidently, does not. What to me might be a complete outrage or breach of conduct may to him simply be his expressing his freedom. Disorganisation is, in my eyes, the bane of anyone's existence, but in his eyes, it's much better to refuse to plan his entire life and enjoy a stress-free existence (and cope with issues as they arise) than to over-plan and never have any fun. For me, discipline and structure enable me to effectively complete my goals, but to attempt to discipline my brother or structure his life in any way would be to kill off his spirit. It would be to change him into something he cannot possibly be. Differing views, opinions, behaviours and attitudes aren't just the result of different people's experiences; they're based upon whole personalities.
Has anyone else entered this mindset of tolerance of others' values? I'd expect Se/Ni types to find it more of an obstacle than Ne/Si types, because in my experience Se/Ni individuals are less open-minded than Ne/Si individuals.