There is this ILE that I know, who used to get a lot of shit, as he was so sweet and easygoing.
So now he has turned into a total arsehole. Which I kind of understand, so I was trying to be sweet to him in the hopes that he may become less insecure, but he is oblivious. He is realy horrible to everyone regardless of their treatment of him.
So what would it take for him to stop being so cruel? I think he is only being like this as a way to defend himself, he is afraid other people will lash out at him so he lashes out first...
I do quite like him and I feel a connection with him but I am just finding this so annoying, and I tell him so, I have a go at him everytime he acts like an arse, but I don't know if this is how to get him to stop in the long run (as an ILE he wants to be liked by everyone, right? So if I & a few others who he values were to reject him when being cruel then maybe he would stop?).
Has anyone got any ideas of this, on how to help him and to stop him from smashing up everyones self-confidence?
It really is destroying his relationships, people just get so pissed off with it, they just don't want to be around him.
<3 Thanks