How does it feel to be physically attractive ?

[machintruc]

Does it make you feel secure ? insecure ?

Do you actually feel attractive ? Or do you just acknowledge being attractive, while not feeling it ?

Does it feel like being socially inadequate ? Does it improve your adequacy ?

Do you feel like being the centre of attention ? Do you fear of being unnoticed or overly noticed ?

Does being attractive and beautiful the same thing for you ?

Does being attractive and good the same thing for you ?

Do you think being attractive renders others more friendly to you ? more hostile ?

Do you feel narcissistic ? self-effaced ?

How do you feel when others compliment you about being attractive ?

Do you suffer your attractiveness ?

How do you feel when some dude/chick is making advances to you ?

[Creepy-bg]

I'm a 12

[Garmonbozia]

You're asking everyone? As if you're the only ugly dude on the forum?

[xyz]

feels pretty good

[Lotus]

I'm a 12

Yes you are

[machintruc]

You're asking everyone? As if you're the only ugly dude on the forum?

I'm asking everyone who's actually far more attractive than average.

For example, some chicks feel insecure because they're very attractive, and may think "do they think I'm a fuckin' whore or something ?" because they're feminist retards.

[Lotus]

I wish I was uglier, so I can actually have drive to accomplish some satisfying work. Instead I tend to take extremely long breaks in front of a mirror just staring in narcissistic glee at some of my well apportioned facial features. When the time could be much better served reading or doing productive labour.

This time, for example, could have been better used to read about something interesting rather than inform this thread about how physically attractive I am.

I spent my morning thinking about how rich and successful I can become someday without even lifting a finger. How basically everyone will listen to what I have to say, no matter how vapid or controversial a proposal. I'll probably live a longer life than most of you just because there are far fewer things I have to worry about, and this brings immense satisfaction.

Really though, it's a fairly lethargic, self-satisfied and quite a bourgeois lifestyle compared to most.

Does this answer your question?

Let's see those pics...

[xyz]

Most of the really attractive females that I've met are actually very, very insecure about the way they look.

Yeah. They suck.

[Lotus]

For example, some chicks feel insecure because they're very attractive, and may think "do they think I'm a fuckin' whore or something ?" because they're feminist retards.

Huh. Explain this more.

[jessica129]

I have yet to meet an extremely attractive, insecure woman.

[xyz]

I have yet to meet an extremely attractive, insecure woman.

Maybe you refer to them as 'stuck up bitches'?

[UDP]

One of the most difficult thing about attraction is that it serves as a shroud. The idea of being attracted to someone and "falling in love" based on how someone looks cuts away from the various forms of compatibility that are necessary for certain kinds of relationships to be successful. But attraction is a big part of making one night stands successful, etc.

[strrrng]

I would say it doesn't really "feel" like anything. The feelings begin when you compare yourself to others or are complimented (or not). It's not like some fundamental source of confidence; it's more like something that's just there.

[jessica129]

I take back my comment. But honestly, who isn't insecure?

[Garmonbozia]

I'm asking everyone who's actually far more attractive than average.

For example, some chicks feel insecure because they're very attractive, and may think "do they think I'm a fuckin' whore or something ?" because they're feminist retards.

Some people find me attractive. Some people find me sort of creepy looking. I'm among the latter half.

(This is the most recent photo of my me. For reference and stuff. I'm not the silly bald guy who is trying to look cool.)


It annoys me when people comment on my appearance. Not because I feel like an object but because I crave praise (okay, I said it) and I don't want to complements on things that I don't work on. If I put make up on or fixed my hair I'm sure I would be very flattered. As it is I want people to say nice things about stuff that I have to put an effort into. Anyway, I look 12.

[xyz]

I take back my comment. But honestly, who isn't insecure?

Well, I think all of us are insecure about something, just that some of us are more insecure about our looks than anything else.

[Lotus]

I take back my comment. But honestly, who isn't insecure?

Yeah, I agree.
Even attractive people can get insecure.

[jessica129]

Well, I'm not claiming to be exceptionally attractive myself and I never would, but I could see why attractive people would be more insecure as the only thing they're ever judged on is their appearance.

[xyz]

Well, I'm not claiming to be exceptionally attractive myself and I never would, but I could see why attractive people would be more insecure as the only thing they're ever judged on is their appearance.

You mean there's more to them??

[Lotus]

You mean there's more to them??

Aww luis, don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you have SOME personality deep down...

Some people find me attractive. Some people find me sort of creepy looking. I'm among the latter half.

It annoys me when people comment on my appearance. Not because I feel like an object but because I crave praise (okay, I said it) and I don't want to complements on things that I don't work on. If I put make up on or fixed my hair I'm sure I would be very flattered. As it is I want people to say nice things about stuff that I have to put an effort into. Anyway, I look 12.

It honestly annoys you? Wow.

I'm kind of the opposite. I don't put much effort into my appearance really. Eye make up sometimes...
So when girls get praised for having great hair or skin when they're actually wearing a ton of make up and straightening their hair every morning before people see them.... it's kind of amusing.

Like false compliments.
I mean... I guess they ARE compliments. But only as "hey, you used that make up really well... you can make yourself look attractive with it. Nice effort. " instead of "you're beautiful"

[xyz]

Aww luis, don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you have SOME personality deep down...

That's the best backhanded complement i've ever received.

Fuck you too.

[strrrng]

Some people find me attractive.

ya lol, judging from those other pics where u looked like a model or something

I don't see the connection between attractiveness and insecurity. If some attractive teenage girl is insecure, always saying she's ugly, it's probably not derived from being attractive and having people comment on her looks often. People like compliments. Maybe attractive people experience insecurity when they feel like they need to be more attractive or something (like a rich person wanting to be more rich, never content with what he has; as opposed to a middle class person who is content).

[marooned]

only 1 old pic for now... I'll take the rest when I feel like it...

I can't tell if you're being serious or not.

[Garmonbozia]

only 1 old pic for now... I'll take the rest when I feel like it.

proffesional super glam pic taken last year.

Lance Bass <3

[marooned]

Then you can tell the forum that I'm being serious.

Jxrtes is being serious, forum.

[Garmonbozia]

Aww luis, don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you have SOME personality deep down...



It honestly annoys you? Wow.

I'm kind of the opposite. I don't put much effort into my appearance really. Eye make up sometimes...
So when girls get praised for having great hair or skin when they're actually wearing a ton of make up and straightening their hair every morning before people see them.... it's kind of amusing.

Like false compliments.
I mean... I guess they ARE compliments. But only as "hey, you used that make up really well... you can make yourself look attractive with it. Nice effort. " instead of "you're beautiful"

Yeah, I want an E for effort. Other wise people are complimenting my parentage which is shitty at best.

[strrrng]

I mean... I guess they ARE compliments. But only as "hey, you used that make up really well... you can make yourself look attractive with it. Nice effort. " instead of "you're beautiful"

agreed. makeup and stuff is nice, but it's more about the inherent beauty. you could put a truly attractive girl in a sweat suit and she would still turn heads.

[theMime.]

I take back my comment. But honestly, who isn't insecure?

exactly.

[xyz]

You can't deny though that obviously as humans, on first impressions beauty is the first thing that we notice.

[Lotus]

Yeah, I want an E for effort. Other wise people are complimenting my parentage which is shitty at best.

Yeah, you're right.

But still... when someone is called "ugly" they are way more insulted than when they are told "you don't put in enough effort."

I'm not sure why this is.. since it is just parentage.... but yeah.
Even though it is stupid to be happy when people find you attractive, we still are.

Well... you don't.

[theMime.]

Yeah, you're right.

But still... when someone is called "ugly" they are way more insulted than when they are told "you don't put in enough effort."

I'm not sure why this is.. since it is just parentage.... but yeah.
Even though it is stupid to be happy when people find you attractive, we still are.

Well... you don't.

yup.

[xyz]

Yeah, you're right.

But still... when someone is called "ugly" they are way more insulted than when they are told "you don't put in enough effort."

I'm not sure why this is.. since it is just parentage.... but yeah.
Even though it is stupid to be happy when people find you attractive, we still are.

Well... you don't.

Maybe it's more related to western culture than anything intristically human. I've been told (esp by lots of foreign students form East Asia and Phillipines) that america puts lots of emphasis on physical looks. Deny it as we might, it still effects us.

[Lotus]

And also in regard to Garmon's post: What if we lived in a society where attraction was based on effort instead of being visual pleasing?

The girls who don't like to put in effort would be the least attractive. The ones who put in a lot of effort would be the most admired. But the ones who DO put in more effort are usually the girls who are the least secure with themselves... and that's why they need the attention the effort gives them. So this sort of society would sort of blow because we would be rewarding insecure/attention-seeking behavior.

Bleh.

Wait. Never mind. Our society does that too.
Eh, there's no way to win.

[discojoe]

Does it make you feel secure ? insecure ?

I'm a bit of a weird case, because my appearance tends to divide women into two groups. The first group is attracted to muscley guys (like Jessica) and finds me ugly or whatever, and the second group is attracted to tall and/or skinny guys and thinks I'm really hot and follows me around and gets their friends to ask me if I like them. There are, of course, men who are much better-looking than be, but I think I've made out pretty well in that area.

So I guess it makes me feel a mixture of both security and insecurity, though for the most part I don't care what people think.

Do you actually feel attractive ? Or do you just acknowledge being attractive, while not feeling it ?

It depends on whether or not I like what I am wearing or if I need to shower or groom. If I like my appearance and feel clean, then yes, I feel attractive. If I feel dirty/ugly, no.

Does it feel like being socially inadequate ? Does it improve your adequacy ?

It feels like a social advantage, but not at all a measure of adequacy.

Do you feel like being the centre of attention ? Do you fear of being unnoticed or overly noticed ?

I don't at all enjoy being the center of a group's attention, but I like being the center of attention for the person I am talking to, assuming I find them interesting.

Does being attractive and beautiful the same thing for you ?

People can have beautiful personalities regardless of appearance, but I find myself aroused mainly by physical beauty and would probably not get involved with someone I thought was physically unattractive.

Does being attractive and good the same thing for you ?

(a better way of phrasing this would be, "Are attractiveness and goodness the same thing to you?")

Not at all. They're not even remotely related.

Do you think being attractive renders others more friendly to you ? more hostile ?

Almost always more friendly. Women at stores and whatnot are usually really nice to me, probably because I have a pretty face, so it's good for "getting things". It's also fun when a woman makes initial eye contact and accidentally holds it for too long because they like I'm hot.

Do you feel narcissistic ? self-effaced ?

No. I just think of it as good luck and move on.

How do you feel when others compliment you about being attractive ?

Good. I like compliments, and they feel like Te input somehow.

Do you suffer your attractiveness ?

Nope.

How do you feel when some dude/chick is making advances to you ?

When I was single, I liked it a lot. If it were to happen now I would "like it" but carefully restrict my responses, so it wouldn't be as enjoyable. Flirting = offer of sex, and that's one of the most important things humans do, so it makes you feel successful.

[jessica129]

I'm a bit of a weird case, because my appearance tends to divide women into two groups. The first group is attracted to muscley guys (like Jessica)

Wrong. I simply like men to look like men. And I also like men who weigh more than me. Call me crazy.

[discojoe]

Wrong. I simply like men to look like men. And I also like men who weigh more than me. Call me crazy.

You weigh more than 175 lbs?

[Garmonbozia]

And also in regard to Garmon's post: What if we lived in a society where attraction was based on effort instead of being visual pleasing?

The girls who don't like to put in effort would be the least attractive. The ones who put in a lot of effort would be the most admired. But the ones who DO put in more effort are usually the girls who are the least secure with themselves... and that's why they need the attention the effort gives them. So this sort of society would sort of blow because we would be rewarding insecure/attention-seeking behavior.

Bleh.

Wait. Never mind. Our society does that too.
Eh, there's no way to win.

It's all creepy we should just be invisible.

That isn't to say that I'm not a pretty things maven. I fucking love good design (not clothes) when I look at my macbook air or my strida or a pretty building it's as thrilling as looking at a baby loris. It's orgasmic. But the people who MAKE pretty things are of far more value than people who ARE pretty.

[discojoe]

I'm not trying to sound arrogant or anything, but this is already true in most cases. The preppy girls who are actually good at taking care of themselves (makeup and hair) are usually regarded at the most attractive in our society. It's the same with guys who work on their body's in the gym.

Girls who put a ton of energy into their appearance usually have awful personalities.

[xyz]

Girls who put a ton of energy into their appearance usually have awful personalities.

And their usually only interesting until they open their mouths.

[discojoe]

And their usually only interesting until they open their mouths.

Well, that depends on why they're opening it.