I'm not the loud kind of ENFj. I've been mistaken for INFp before because of that, by the people in NY. I thought that would make me Ni subtype, but according to the descriptions on wikisocion I'm more like the Ethical subtype. I'm not confident in anything I do. All the ENFj's I met seem more outgoing and appear to have the ability to be good public speakers. I get very self-concious when I participate in class discussions. At work I'm not really confident when I talk to my managers but I'm very comfortable with the customers.
For the Enneagram: My friend says I'm a 6. She thinks I'm that because I'm always worried my health. I'm very hesitant with everything I do. I need to learn how to relax. When I read the enneagram descriptions in one book I sounded like a four.