As for Ti>Te, I don't see it in the blog. I don't think it's about Ti or Te at all, can you point out where you see these two reflected and evaluated? I'm curious now
ETA: even nowadays, I often feel like 'friendships' are a waste of time, but things are gradually changing in that respect.
This is how I understand Fi and Fe: Fe involves a sense of friendship on the emotional level, a capacity to connect with other people, to influence emotions. Fi involves judgment of other people, the capacity to evaluate their behavior from an ethical perspective, to understand that behavior and it motivations, to provide understanding and compassion. I'm taking off the sharp edges of my inclination to evaluate other people's behavior, but also of my tendency to provide empathic understanding to people in some kind of distress. And I try to put friendship, even though it is difficult, on a higher plane.
As for Ni, I do look for patterns, but not as much as I look for similarities and relationships try to see how different perspectives relate to each other (Ne).
As for understanding: I think I'm not seeking understanding, because I think I typically understand things very well, I only often do not know which understanding applies in a situation (in relationship to myself), since multiple possibilities could apply. What keeps me awake at night is not that I do not understand, but that I do not know for sure. So I keep searching for knowledge that would provide the final word, of course, to no avail. Obsessive knowledge gathering: Te mobilizing function, I believe.
Ne is about making connections where you might not see one, it can connect at first sight totally unrelated things into something. Ni is about seeing how situation will develop, evolve, seeing one way how it will be but it is quite different of how Ne connects things/facts/people/events. At least that's how I see it.I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. Ne is about seeing possibilities. Ni is about seeing how things relate/connect.
My problem is not that I do not understand, because I do. I only have difficulty with what I should choose. If I go left, there will be benefits and disadvantages, same thing with turning right. But how do I know what's the right choice? I'm in therapy for two years now. I understand perfectly what's wrong with me, also what I could do to change it, but there is this constant question: am I doing the right thing? and both of the therapists I've had in the past two years, refuse to give me that answer. They want me to choose myself. But if I ask them to explain a phenomenon (i.e. if I ask for understanding), they are very forthcoming and explain things in great detail, and I almost always understand it instantly, as if I had always understood it. Very much like Small said: things are never really surprising.
ETA: in relation to the last paragraph: I feel my therapists know perfectly well that Te is my weak spot, although they do not know about Socionics.
I'll elaborate: what I think is the essence of leading Fi types is;
1. The ability to empathize with other people, to make them feel like you understand and appreciate them (perhaps even when this is not really the case). This is the positive side of Fi.
2. the tendency to be judgmental and moralistic when evaluating other people's behavior, (and to draw negative conclusions if these are not the same as your own values)
A good example of this is, I think, Sarah Palin, who I believe to be a stereotypical ESI. I saw a report (click 'bekijk item') yesterday on how people in her hometown feel about her, and what stands out is that many people say Sarah understands them. She makes people feel she is on their side. As we all know, you cannot be on everyone's side at the same time, but she's got people lulled into this sense of 'common understanding'. But she's also very moralistic about people that do not share her values (i.e. who do not serve her interests) and uses dirty tactics to discredit them, while at the same time using Ne-POLR (i.e. simply ignoring and denying without arguments) to deny her own unethical dealings. Emotional manipulative moralism.
iee-extroverted-schizoid-personality" in the longest time ... it is enough to make any "iee-extroverted-schizoid-personality" mother proud of her "iee-extroverted-schizoid-personality" son.
I almost can't read anything else now! I am just BLINDED with the brilliance ...
I seriously have a hard time understanding most of Ni descriptions and when talking with you it didn't get better. I still have a hard time, not your problem of course.
It can be a -> b,c,d
Maybe it is objects leading to new objects. But instead of speaking in abstracts lets say... More or less IEE's I know can see a lot of reasons why a person acted in a certain way, when someone says "she is so stupid, she did this and that, why would she do that??", you can see them jumping in and mentioning "well she could have been hurt? she could have had a bad day? maybe her boyfriend left her? maybe she was sick? maybe she is bored of the current situation? maybe she thinks you are hostile? maybe she wanted to make an example?" and things like that. Maybe its the same as objects leading to new objects. Guess it has more to do in seeing potential/ posibilities in an object.
Well thanks for the insights, I still doubt I really understand Ni, Ne in most cases is very clear to me while Ni is something that makes me go "what??", not sure if it has to do with descriptions or the function itself.
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