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    Default Where to find SLEs/ESTps and LSIs/ISTjs?

    Common hobbies? What do they get up to? Where can I find me some ESTps? !

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    Just to give some examples...The ESTP's that I know, do or have done this:

    dj
    squash
    fitness
    soccer coach
    soccer
    diving
    visit every big festival in town especially when the main purpose is drinking beer :-)

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    tennis
    motorcycling
    soccer (as has already been stated)
    probably other sports as well (I knew an SLE who was into kick-boxing)
    financial management
    fraternities
    drinking, yes
    parties, yes
    karaoke, maybe
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    You will find SLEs:

    dj
    record producer
    singer
    clerk
    squash
    in the office
    fitness
    fighting
    musician
    soccer coach
    ceo
    soccer
    studying at their desk
    diving
    army
    collecting stamps
    fucking hookers
    library
    collecting toy soldiers
    visit every big festival in town especially when the main purpose is drinking beer :-)
    hitting on young girls
    tennis
    shitting on someone's lawn
    taking drugs
    motorcycling
    bars
    navy
    probably other sports as well
    smashing someone's car in
    financial management
    clubs
    fraternities
    travelling
    drinking
    air force
    bullying younger kids
    parties
    karaoke
    knitting
    on this forum

    Moral of the story is, you'll find SLEs in all walks of life. They're not all good, nor all bad.

    However, many SLEs are more commonly drawn to certain activities in order to (stereotypically*) satisfy their Se. You should find a fair few Beta STs in the military, in training corps (or whatever it is you have in the US - ROTC?) etcetera. This provides an outlet for their Se - discipline, active lifestyles, wine, woman and song - and for their Ti - strict hierarchy and a strong ideology. In line with the stereotype, you're likely to find a large percentage of SLEs out on the field, playing football (saaker), rugby (American football in your case) and hockey, or on a court, playing tennis or basketball. Again, this is to satisfy the "get the ball rolling" (no pun intended) aspect of Se. One which may be less stereotypical but still the epitome of SLE is in high positions in the corporate world; I'm talking about chief execs (the guys who are not actually fucked by back-room dealers, but who run the show from the outset), back-room dealers themselves and power/stock brokers. These certainly provide an outlet for an SLE's Se; in fact, it's like paradise - getting people to do what you want them to do, and doing this well.

    *I say stereotypical because not all SLEs are ADHD kids. I get tired of the "come on let's do stuff" aspect of OTC. I just want to go home, grab a shower, wrap myself in a throw, and indulge in creature comforts.

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    yeah, the SLE I know is a senior vice president for a large financial firm. he's the one who brings in the clients, seals the deal. he travels all around visiting clients and bringing in the money. his partner deals with the other aspects of the business but the SLE is the best with people and getting out there to bring in the business.
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    Default Where to find/meet ESTps and ISTjs?

    Ok, now that I had to leave my dual behind :frown: I must go SLE hunting before my heart breaks to small pieces.

    Where are the best places to find SLEs? The places that immediately come to my mind are sporting events, sports bars, bars in general (is this accurate?). Any other places, maybe not so obvious to me?

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    Well I would say that the best place to start would be getting out of the house. As far as a specific place goes I'm not really sure, any place were people are doing active things?

    Personally you could find me at theater events, theater workshops, library, maybe at the gym if I'm bored. Basically though the thing that you need to look for is the loudest person in the room. Or the most obnoxious, or something along those lines. And places that are really competitive, I greatly enjoy competition of any kind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JWC3 View Post
    Well I would say that the best place to start would be getting out of the house. As far as a specific place goes I'm not really sure, any place were people are doing active things?

    Personally you could find me at theater events, theater workshops, library, maybe at the gym if I'm bored. Basically though the thing that you need to look for is the loudest person in the room. Or the most obnoxious, or something along those lines. And places that are really competitive, I greatly enjoy competition of any kind.
    How did you know I needed to hear that?!!!

    I seriously need to become less of a homebody if i want to find an SLE, I know. i LOVE being at home. But then I get lonely. . .:frown:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Gym. Check the basketball courts.
    yeah. they tend to do sports and athletics. catching them watching them as fans might not yield as reliable results lol.

    my SLE ex likes to fish, hike, work out, play basketball, ski.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    I seriously need to become less of a homebody if i want to find an SLE, I know. i LOVE being at home. But then I get lonely. . .:frown:
    This is my life. If I didn't get lonely, I would probably spend all my time in my dorm room and the library. But luckily, I do get lonely, so I have to actually go out into the world and deal with people to find some that I like enough to hang out with who will also hang out with me.

    I also vote for basketball courts, but pretty much anything that's "out there" accomplishing things is good. I mean, yes, SLEs do tend to be fairly physically active, but I think they just tend to be pushing hard towards their goals in whatever field they're interested in, and there are as many interests as there are SLEs. I know probable SLEs (I still don't trust my typing skills 100%) that are into acting, directing, philosophy, golf, classical languages... pretty much everything.

    So, my suggestion is, besides joining your local gym and visiting often, to find a hobby that really interests you (especially something with a lot of obvious Ni/Fe, because I think SLEs can be drawn to stuff like that), and pursuing that wholeheartedly. You might meet some SLEs along the way!
    Not a rule, just a trend.

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    what would be activities with a lot of Ni/Fe? Like for example?

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    Reading poetry or singing at an open mic night. Standing on a corner, either selling weed or preaching the gospel. Discussing existential philosophy or psychology.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    what would be activities with a lot of Ni/Fe? Like for example?
    Theater, It's got soooo much Fe *drools*
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    Yeah, theater is another good one. Any kind of performing art can have an Fe/Ni bent.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    selling weed or preaching the gospel.
    or both.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    or both.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    The Rules…
    Open to all ESTp's from all internet forums both male and female alike

    Arguments, pictures & videos supporting your reasons for why you’re the best ESTp/ SLE to be posted here.

    Winner will be decided by the beta forum members

    Closing Date 2 weeks time

    Prize: Winner is authorized to us the phrase “Voted Best Internet ESTp/SLE 2009” in their signature"


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    Quote Originally Posted by IEI View Post
    The Rules…
    Open to all ESTp's from all internet forums both male and female alike

    Arguments, pictures & videos supporting your reasons for why you’re the best ESTp/ SLE to be posted here.

    Winner will be decided by the beta forum members

    Closing Date 2 weeks time

    Prize: Winner is authorized to us the phrase “Voted Best Internet ESTp/SLE 2009” in their signature"


    The SLE's are going to have a field day with this!

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    i dunno. I bet they don't care.
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    ...and the occasional coffee shop.
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    ahahahaha A lady who works in the coffee shop right down the street is SLE. I thought about this thread this morning while I was getting some breakfast.

    But she also looks like she spends a *lot* of time in the gym.
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    bump.

    i need some more ideas.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    bars in general
    yep. bars and discotheques. The ones making the loudest noise, or are the first and only on the dancefloor, or well they probably find you sooner anyways...

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    past 3 weeks of my schedule:
    theatres and movies
    various pubs & clubs - drinking and dancing like crazy and just having fun with friends
    snowboarding - i adore extreme
    jumping on trampolines (just 2 weeks ago as i was trying to do a backflip i managed to kick myself in the face with my knee. nosebleed and a totally swollen difigured face for a week)
    filming for a movie project
    chillin with my girlfriends
    at work
    at univerity
    at home (but that's just to eat and sleep)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rastermind View Post
    jumping on trampolines (just 2 weeks ago as i was trying to do a backflip i managed to kick myself in the face with my knee. nosebleed and a totally swollen difigured face for a week)
    Isn't that the worst? God kneeing your self in the face sucks. Plus I can tell you right now nobody looks at you when it happens and thinks to themselves "Damn he's cool!"
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    it did suck

    and they were probably like: "OMG .. poor girl .... what happened to her face!?!?"

    but i never worry about what other people might think i coudn't care less.

    and by now it's totally healed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tiny_dancer View Post
    ahahahaha A lady who works in the coffee shop right down the street is SLE. I thought about this thread this morning while I was getting some breakfast.

    But she also looks like she spends a *lot* of time in the gym.
    eww gross

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    You can meet an SLE ANYWHERE.

    Same places you'd meet any other potential mate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mimosa Pudica View Post
    Exactly. This is the best advice so far.

    SLEs are just invisible to you, you probably all sit next to one in your class/at work.
    AUUUGGGGHHH!! how frustrating! So how is this supposed to work?

    BTW my work now consists of a group of 5 women and 2 married older males. :frown: Not looking good. . .
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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    AUUUGGGGHHH!! how frustrating! So how is this supposed to work?

    BTW my work now consists of a group of 5 women and 2 married older males. :frown: Not looking good. . .
    meeting people at work is never a good idea anyway. but if you really want to, you should get a new job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    AUUUGGGGHHH!! how frustrating! So how is this supposed to work?

    BTW my work now consists of a group of 5 women and 2 married older males. :frown: Not looking good. . .
    Go to a bar or club or party. That's where I met my exes. Anything social. Get stuck in. It should be easy for a woman, especially an IEI. Just stand there looking sultry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    Go to a bar or club or party. That's where I met my exes. Anything social. Get stuck in. It should be easy for a woman, especially an IEI. Just stand there looking sultry.
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    thanks for the tip, herzy

    gonna build up some courage and try again some time
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    Go to a bar or club or party. That's where I met my exes. Anything social. Get stuck in. It should be easy for a woman, especially an IEI. Just stand there looking sultry.
    i'm scared. . .

    j/k. . .sounds easy enough. . .I just have to actually GO. I'm a little hesitant to go by myself though. . .especially to a bar or club.

    And i dont know enough people around here yet to get invited to parties. . .the people I know dont have Se-filled parties. :frown:
    I am SORELY missing some good Se.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    i'm scared. . .

    j/k. . .sounds easy enough. . .I just have to actually GO. I'm a little hesitant to go by myself though. . .especially to a bar or club.

    And i dont know enough people around here yet to get invited to parties. . .the people I know dont have Se-filled parties. :frown:
    I am SORELY missing some good Se.
    No don't go by yourself. Take a friend. A winglady. Obviously the idea of a winglady isn't to make you look good and so you don't look like a weirdo/perv etc (which is the job of a wingman for a guy on the pull) but to ensure you don't choose the wrong guy.

    And don't think that just because a party isn't wild you're not gonna meet an SLE there.

    Moreover, remember that the more events you go to, the more you get stuck into, the more your chances of finding an SLE will increase. When I say "get stuck into" I mean you just need to make an appearance, you don't need to actually do anything. If you are even half fit you will get someone instantly. Honestly, worry not in the slightest.

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    Ezra, that was very sweet and encouraging.
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    maybe a boxing school is a place where a bigger percentage then average is SLE ?

    mike tyson SLE, mohammed ali Se leading, personally I know 1 person who's a boxer and he's SLE too.

    Maybe also, bouncers and security guards are often (more than average) SLE ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jarno View Post
    maybe a boxing school is a place where a bigger percentage then average is SLE ?

    mike tyson SLE, mohammed ali Se leading, personally I know 1 person who's a boxer and he's SLE too.

    Maybe also, bouncers and security guards are often (more than average) SLE ?
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