People that seem to understand/value my know when I'm just joking/embellishing for effect, and when I'm being serious and concrete. I don't even have to try to get them to understand, they just know the difference beautifully. They know when I'm being cute and when I'm being serious about something. The good ones then don't allow me to hide behind my strong convictions by doing the cute little INFp golden retriever puppy dog face thing.
But people that are shit in take one little thing I say out of proportion and think the whole thing is faulty. As if one little rib or 'glitch in the matrix' is going to make that much difference. This makes me want to hurt them, of course.
To be fair, just plain confuses me. How do I know how you're really communicating? It just all seems harsh and weird. I like how you can really understand how I feel about people on the forum and stuff. Sometimes you better understand my own personal feelings even before I do, and that is nifty. Kind of a passive/distant Buddhist approach. But it lacks the raw/sensual energy for me.
I want types to counsel me on what type of relationships I really need. To give me that sense of wholeness and health (Kind of a and hybrid). But I personally do not want to have relationships with types themselves. So I appreciate the free service, and also the paid therapeutic help of psychologists. I just cannot personally value it in my own life. I still recognize its importance though.
It's just I've noticed I can fool other types easily with who I enjoy. But to types themselves it's more obvious and pronounced. It's like I go out of my way thinking that who I like/don't like is a secret by being quiet. But it's like you guys pick up on the subtle things (in real life I mean) and pick up on it anyway. It's quite nice. You'd think that I would like fall in love with you forever because this is all I ever wanted out of my own life. But it's more of a business thing with us.