Is this Fi vs Fe?

[Park]

"I prefer private relationships where most of what is said and done remains between me and the other individual. I respect privacy and value integrity and loyalty. In more serious relationships I want to be able to trust and confide the other person and feel safe about the information I share."

vs

"I prefer open relationships where most of what is said and done presents a process of give-and-take and provides information for exchange with other people. I value honesty and openness. In more serious relationships I want to be able to freely express myself and be accepted for who I am and what I do. I communicate freely with everyone and tend to keep very little information hidden."

?

[redbaron]

I don't think so.

[FDG]

Maybe it's more introversion vs extraversion

[redbaron]

Maybe it's more introversion vs extraversion

that's what I was thinking too.

[Park]

Maybe it's more introversion vs extraversion

It has to be more than that because those are opposing views and two people like that will (most likely) not get along with each other. Their expectations would be mismatched and unmet.

[implied]

I don't think so.

neither do i.

[Park]

I don't think so.

neither do i.

Neither do I.

Ok. What do you all think it is, then?

[implied]

Ok. What do you all think it is, then?

something else. i could see both of those aspects associated with Fi or Fe, fwiw. maybe dependent on whatever they're blocked with. maybe need more information to decide.

[Park]

something else. i could see both of those aspects associated with Fi or Fe, fwiw. maybe dependent on whatever they're blocked with. maybe need more information to decide.

Ok, what if I added this:

"I value each relationship separately. I have no reason to trust people and reveal them details about my relationships. I guard myself and my relationships. And I expect the other person to understand this and be at least a little careful as to how they expose our relationship to others."

vs

"I don't hide my intentions, my consciousness is clear and I leave the rest up to the other person. Most people have good intentions and can be generally trusted, but I sometimes find myself amused to discover what some people were really about/after."

[redbaron]

Actually, for friendship-type relationships I prefer this:

"I prefer open relationships where most of what is said and done provides for an exchange of information with other people."

For romantic-type relationships, of course, I prefer this:

"I prefer private relationships where most of what is said and done remains between me and the other individual. I respect privacy and value integrity and loyalty. I want to be able to trust and confide in the other person and feel safe about the information that I share."

I thought that this would be a general trend for most people though, yeah? Or no?

Not for me. One of my best friends (another IEI) and I do both. At times we talk about open stuff and that's understood that it's information we'd share with anyone or whatever but at other times and on certain topics, it's understood that it's private and I know I can trust her not to go blabbing about it. There are even things I'd tell my best friend that I wouldn't necessarily tell my romantic partner (a.k.a. husband) just because she understands it and he doesn't, or whatever.

[Park]

At times we talk about open stuff and that's understood that it's information we'd share with anyone or whatever but at other times and on certain topics, it's understood that it's private and I know I can trust her not to go blabbing about it. There are even things I'd tell my best friend that I wouldn't necessarily tell my romantic partner (a.k.a. husband) just because she understands it and he doesn't, or whatever.

Yeah, so far you're closest to what I'm thinking.

[aka-kitsune]

Not for me. One of my best friends (another IEI) and I do both. At times we talk about open stuff and that's understood that it's information we'd share with anyone or whatever but at other times and on certain topics, it's understood that it's private and I know I can trust her not to go blabbing about it. There are even things I'd tell my best friend that I wouldn't necessarily tell my romantic partner (a.k.a. husband) just because she understands it and he doesn't, or whatever.

I think I'm much the same. I generally have different patterns based on who the person is to me, how well we know each other. I have a couple close friends that I know I can share anything with, because they are sensitive about knowing what I wouldn't want them to share with anyone else. We're all on the same page about "private" info.

With other people, I'm not always sure. People often share info with me I'd consider "private" rather freely, regardless of whether we're close, so I'm sometimes not certain whether I should repeat it or no. Usually I don't if I think it's something very personal, like family secrets or it seems like something of a confessional nature. It's a strange position to be in.

I rather like being a *special* confidant, so I feel privileged to be trusted with someone's personal info. I often don't want to tell anyone else.

[Park]

Actually, for friendship-type relationships I prefer this:

"I prefer open relationships where most of what is said and done provides for an exchange of information with other people."

For romantic-type relationships, of course, I prefer this:

"I prefer private relationships where most of what is said and done remains between me and the other individual. I respect privacy and value integrity and loyalty. I want to be able to trust and confide in the other person and feel safe about the information that I share."

I thought that this would be a general trend for most people though, yeah? Or no?

I was more interested in the aspect that comes into conflict between the two.

Thanks for the grammar corrections.

[Park]

I don’t see the conflict.

The conflict is in the way they handle the exchanged information. One tends to keep it away from people it wasn't intended for and protects it from the potential of being misused, while the other sees no need of keeping it for themself and protecting it but is predisposed to share it and constantly gain others' opinion/perspective on it, which is something the 1st one wouldn't care about.

[kensi]

"I prefer private relationships where most of what is said and done remains between me and the other individual. I respect privacy and value integrity and loyalty. In more serious relationships I want to be able to trust and confide the other person and feel safe about the information I share."

vs

"I prefer open relationships where most of what is said and done presents a process of give-and-take and provides information for exchange with other people. I value honesty and openness. In more serious relationships I want to be able to freely express myself and be accepted for who I am and what I do. I communicate freely with everyone and tend to keep very little information hidden."

?

not in whole but in part