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    in a relationship?

    Also, do you see yourselves as being very direct?

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    If I'm direct I'm joking, if I'm undirect I'm serious.

    I see myself as very indirect. But that might not be others opinions of me.

    Take in mind that I might not be ILE

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    I may not be an ILE after all, but FWIW:

    On directness, it depends on what situation you're asking about. When it comes to relationship development, I'm not naturally direct. If it involves complex emotional things, I can be direct out of necessity (can't handle such things for long so I need to know exactly what the situation is). Otherwise I'm a pretty indirect, "play the border and hope you figure out my meaning" type of person. I probably need a partner that can read my emotions well and handle them without having to bring them out in excruciating detail.

    Attitudes and expressiveness are pretty important. I want someone who doesn't take things seriously and is VERY expressive of her emotions. It's okay to get mad at me, but you have to let me know immediately, don't do that beneath the surface sulking bs, yuk! I want immediate emotional feedback to everything, and I want it clear and easily "fixable".

    Another big part is someone who is fun and I can act natural around. A lot of people get pissed off/look at me funny/just make those fake understanding statements and move on when I have random goofy ideas. What I've noticed with the IPs, especially Si types that I know, is that they dig my ideas and want to do them immediately. Normally I say "hey let's do this random activity" and normal people go "uh...I don't wanna do that let's sit around and do boring pointless normal stuff instead." People who go "yeah! that sounds fun!" and jump up to walk out the door and follow some half baked instinct of mine are like a breath of fresh air.

    Compatible views in life are a must. I basically plan on avoiding accumulating possessions and spending my money on travel for the next several years of my life. I want to have a lot of awesome experiences in a lot of places, and I want someone there WITH ME. What I don't want is to marry some chick, and have her go "I want a babyyyyyy" a year in, settle down and do nothing for the next 30 years of my life.

    Cramming food down my throat is also important, as I forget to eat and am too skinny. Really the whole sensory pleasure thing with food and in general is important. One time I was in a store with this chick who grabbed a peach, stuck it under my nose, and was like "Smell this peach! Doesn't it smell good?" That was so hot.

    Physical attractiveness is important, obviously. My preferences are not the norm, however: I value faces the most, and facial expressions play a big part in that. I also like girls who aren't really skinny, e.g. I like some curvature going on. Not overweight, but closer to "could lose 5 pounds' than to "wow you should eat something."
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    Quote Originally Posted by diljs View Post
    On directness, it depends on what situation you're asking about. When it comes to relationship development, I'm not naturally direct. If it involves complex emotional things, I can be direct out of necessity (can't handle such things for long so I need to know exactly what the situation is). Otherwise I'm a pretty indirect, "play the border and hope you figure out my meaning" type of person. I probably need a partner that can read my emotions well and handle them without having to bring them out in excruciating detail.

    Attitudes and expressiveness are pretty important. I want someone who doesn't take things seriously and is VERY expressive of her emotions. It's okay to get mad at me, but you have to let me know immediately, don't do that beneath the surface sulking bs, yuk! I want immediate emotional feedback to everything, and I want it clear and easily "fixable".

    Another big part is someone who is fun and I can act natural around. A lot of people get pissed off/look at me funny/just make those fake understanding statements and move on when I have random goofy ideas. What I've noticed with the IPs, especially Si types that I know, is that they dig my ideas and want to do them immediately. Normally I say "hey let's do this random activity" and normal people go "uh...I don't wanna do that let's sit around and do boring pointless normal stuff instead." People who go "yeah! that sounds fun!" and jump up to walk out the door and follow some half baked instinct of mine are like a breath of fresh air.

    Compatible views in life are a must. I basically plan on avoiding accumulating possessions and spending my money on travel for the next several years of my life. I want to have a lot of awesome experiences in a lot of places, and I want someone there WITH ME. What I don't want is to marry some chick, and have her go "I want a babyyyyyy" a year in, settle down and do nothing for the next 30 years of my life.

    Cramming food down my throat is also important, as I forget to eat and am too skinny. Really the whole sensory pleasure thing with food and in general is important. One time I was in a store with this chick who grabbed a peach, stuck it under my nose, and was like "Smell this peach! Doesn't it smell good?" That was so hot.

    Physical attractiveness is important, obviously. My preferences are not the norm, however: I value faces the most, and facial expressions play a big part in that. I also like girls who aren't really skinny, e.g. I like some curvature going on. Not overweight, but closer to "could lose 5 pounds' than to "wow you should eat something."
    Basically replace all the female words with male words.

    Also:

    It takes me FOREVER to figure out how I feel about someone and to grow any kind of committed feelings whatsoever. To put it in layman's terms I'm the biggest cocktease you've ever met. So I need guys who like me enough to want to spend a lot of time with me, but who don't have big scary feelings too quickly and understand that I'm a flirtatious individual by nature. I'm totally freaked out by people who fall hard and fast because I don't like hurting people and it feels like I'm getting tied down into something. I hate weights on my independence.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mn0good View Post
    Basically replace all the female words with male words.
    So you want guys who are curvy?

    I thought of some more things I like:

    In touch with nature. I like people who naturally want to run around in the sun and grass and stuff. I desire this but don't feel like i'm doing it right without one of these people around.

    Makes me comfortable. This is kind of a weird vibe thing, I guess it's Si but I'm not sure I understand Si completely. Around most people I don't quite feel comfortable, but around certain people I feel completely at ease within seconds of just being around them. It's something to do with their open posture and lack of negative reactions to every little thing I do or say wrong. They simply adapt to it instead of closing themselves off psychologically to me.

    Able to choose what restaurant they want to eat it. My whole family is intuitives, nobody can decide what they want to eat.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Suomea View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Darkstar View Post
    Take in mind that I might not be ILE
    Are you being indirect? And thus serious that you're ILE?

    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Winterpark View Post
    Are you being indirect? And thus serious that you're ILE?

    hmmmm
    I will not aim for the head.

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    In a relationship, I'm looking for one of two things. Either I'm looking for my favorite person in the world, someone I can always rely on, and for the reverse to also be true; whether that's actually possible IDK, or else I'm just looking for as much fun as possible with no long term goals in mind.

    I see myself as very direct when I'm feeling confident, directionless and extremely vague otherwise.

    Also, most of what dilj's wrote It's easier to steal someone else's work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darkstar View Post
    hmmmm
    You're so fucking vague.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by diljs View Post
    So you want guys who are curvy?
    Actually, yes. I prefer guys who are a little cushy so I can cuddle. I'm all boney and jabby and awkward, so big teddy bears are comfy cuddlers ^-^

    I thought of some more things I like:

    In touch with nature. I like people who naturally want to run around in the sun and grass and stuff. I desire this but don't feel like i'm doing it right without one of these people around.

    Makes me comfortable. This is kind of a weird vibe thing, I guess it's Si but I'm not sure I understand Si completely. Around most people I don't quite feel comfortable, but around certain people I feel completely at ease within seconds of just being around them. It's something to do with their open posture and lack of negative reactions to every little thing I do or say wrong. They simply adapt to it instead of closing themselves off psychologically to me.

    Able to choose what restaurant they want to eat it. My whole family is intuitives, nobody can decide what they want to eat.
    Um. Yes, Yes and Yes. Totally relate.
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