When I was young, and ended up in leadership roles, sometimes people would be like "who put him in charge", and I'd be like I put myself in charge.
Sometimes people would like to remind me that they're fine on their own.
I'm a terrible leader. I tell people they're useless, incompetent, worthless, and so on. And then they get all grumpy and don't want to play. I only really like leading when it's necessary, and things have already turned to shit. And I really don't mind someone else leading - I prefer to stand on my own. BUT DO THEY LISTEN? NO. Sometimes people seem to think I should lead. Other times, they really don't want me to lead. But hey, - apparently that's significant - it means that people form strong opinions on me.
I used to try to get other people to lead quite a lot when I was young. Generally, when I would lead was actually when no-one else wanted to. What do you call that... a reluctant leader .. yes ..