I've haven't read much of those threads, but I'll eventually get to it, but I'm glad I could provide some reprieve from that.
Well, again, I think I'd point to the fact that her drive seems to be more self-driven. This is not to say that she's being selfish, but her energy is going into things where she challenges herself and pushes herself to be the best that
she can be. And it was only after seeing how "far" others have gone in the other direction that she then felt that something needed to be done about that.
You on the other hand, you are others-driven. Yes, it takes a lot of hard work on an individual level, but your first focus is on doing everything you can for others, which then acts to build yourself up.
fwiw, I think I'm strong with
and
as well, but I suppress the
more, or rather, I use it sparingly. What takes precedence with me is being able to connect with individuals on a personal, deep level.
I think you come across quite feminine to me, but not in a dainty sense. I don't know how to explain it, but I think you come across sufficiently feminine to me.
Yeah, I'd be inclined to think that she's ESTj, but for some reason ESTp seems plausible.