We are drawn to our alter-egos.
Our anima/animus is of the social relational style of our alterego, therefore we will look for people whom have that trait when trying to select optimal mates. For example, a person with a cautious alter-ego will prefer to fantasize over a counselor as opposed to any other of the social relation types. Ideal matches function when either person has as their foreground social relation type the alterego of the other; these couples experience optimal mutual attraction.