first thot: identify options
first thot: identify options
ILE
those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
Gotta get out! Gotta get out!
"Language is the Rubicon that divides man from beast."
yes. then wait for the right opportunity to get out with the least amount of stress and the highest probability for success.Originally Posted by Blaze
IEI-Fe 4w3
My next thought would be: "oh fuck, what have I done?".
"icecream"
(that is pretty much my default first thought")
INFp
If your sea chart does not match reality, go with reality (Old mariner saying)
You don't just suddenly realize such things, for god sakes.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
so true.
maybe others do though...
I don't think I could just suddenly realize something like that, especially where relationships are concerned. If I had that thought, I'd doubt it and not take it seriously unless it kept happening or the situation got a lot worse.
I have a history of taking sudden decisive action though in terms of other life choices. I often think stuff along the lines of "it would be better for my employer (or whoever) as well if I leave this situation because [insert reason here]", and then I just find myself doing what I need to do.
well depending on the reason. Say my spouse stopped shaving her armpits and that goes against everything I stand for (Just an example!)
me: So... You have stopped shaving you armpits I see.... Why?
her: I like the earthy nature feel it gives me *She lift her arm and pets her bush*
me: *shivers*
that night there is some wierd frustrated sex where I have strange feelings having sex with a bear
Day 2
me: Hey how 'bout shaving those armpits, I can start showering again if you do it!
her: No! get off my back!
me: *moves in behind her and start pulling at her armpit hair*
she:aaaiiiiihhh! STOP IT
me: evil laugh! Aahahahaha die armpit hair!
A few days later.....
she: *cries* I cant stand living with you! My armpits are bleeding and you are evil!
me: Fine, then leave and never come back!! (I have planned for this and have made preparations. Bought dried foods and prepared my tent so I can leave when ever. I also checked in the swim hall for shaved girls!)
another few days later...
me: shit *shivers* I shouldn't have brought this up in the winter. I'm fucking freezing!
atleast I am away from those horribly armpit hairs. Thank god!
A few days later a german couple found me. I died during the night. I had a big smile on my face and I was holding my own armpit hair.
I died happy and went to hell.
My girl hooked up with bob marley and has never been happier (in general girls tend to be happier with the man she finds after me then when she is with me.. hmm)
"oh my god I've lived my entire life trying to avoid this specific scenario and yet I'm still dumb enough to let it happen to me. WHYYY??1 Panic and flee! panicccccc and fleeeeeeee!"
also rofl at the above
"what is the best way to extricate myself from this situation and keep myself sane in the process"
this is very true as well.
you sound like my dad!That's his first thought about everything too.
IEI-Fe 4w3
yeah....and with infp these strategies come in quick succession, esp the least amount of stress part. so helpful.
ILE
those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
yes i kind of agree with you here about the relationship. like, the idea that the relationship is not the right one would more gradually dawn on you rather than suddenly occur to you.
but with jobs...i know i've been in situations before where i'm like, whoa, this is baaad nowwhatamigoingtodo fuck!
ILE
those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
With jobs I tend to start really dreading going to work, then suddenly I'm like "okay, this sucks... and I'm not doing anybody any favors by continuing to work here with an attitude like this... I'm outta here". There have been a couple of jobs that I've quit without giving notice (one that I walked out of mid shift... and two other people walked out behind me that day), but for the most part at that point I'd write up a two week notice... and then try to find people to cover for me so I don't have to work those shifts. One time I was told that I wasn't allowed to try to cover my shifts, that I had to work them. I was like "screw it then, I'm done" and didn't finish my two weeks.
Anyways... that "I'm not doing anyone any favors" thought is probably the one I should give as an answer to this topic. In relationships as well, I'd think "I wouldn't want someone to stay with me if he wasn't sure that he wanted to" or "the only worse than having parents who aren't together is having parents who shouldn't be together" or something of the like. I guess I have to convince myself that I'm not doing anyone any harm by way of my actions, or (more so) that it's for the overall good. It's not about people's feelings, in any case. I've done stuff knowing it would upset people but also knowing that it was for the overall good.
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