Help me out here. It seems like this socionics thing isn't based on mental states leading up to similiar lifestyles but more like, how we simply say and go about things.
For example, even if you agree with what they're saying, your conflictor would rub you the wrong way. But if your dual disagrees with you they would do it in a way where you would still keep the peace and be able to have a positive relationship.
You also don't even have to have anything in common for it to work, because the 'how you go about things' part is so seductive, you'd build a relationship anyway. Besides, you don't necessarily fancy a person just because you do things with them, correct?
I thought about this, and a person doesn't have to have anything in common with me, it's just I better like how they go about things and how they carry themselves. I don't like or dislike a person based on what they do unless it's something that I really think is morally wrong.
If this seems like a big 'duh' to people and all, that's fine. But just tell me if I'm generally right or not. I think it's more about how you mesh with people's quirks, that's the thing that build's chemistry.
I mean attitude, personality- that's what it is all about. We can do diff things and have our own lives, we need that, but they need to behave/carry themselves in a way that speaks to my soul when we interact. So liking somebody similiar OR different is irrelevant either way to me. It's not about similarities or differences lining up and clashing, I don't think.