so I was at a get together tonight with:
and me (ENFp)
It was really interesting to see the interaction. When one INFp would go into the depths of meaning about a topic (that was over my head), the other INFp would "understand completely." And I was confused at how they both undertstood the layers of meaning in the topic so quickly.
Then one INFp would say some almost put downs about their career, and the ESTp (who barely knew this INFp) would jump in with encouragement, like "you're amazing! Just amazing at this!" and did it so naturally.
Then when the ENFp reacted badly to something the ESTp said -- usually something impulsive like I'm going to do X huge decision now -- I would echo what the other ENFp said, which was basically something like "hmm...maybe might want to think that over first...etc."
However, the other ENFp was much more blunt than I was, and at first glance I actually thought she was either ISTj, or ENFj. But after we typed everyone, I realized that her thoughts made perfect sense to me, even if she was more blunt. The ESTp had turned typing into a party game at this point, which was actually really fun.
The INFp and ISTp (the two guys, both in dual relationships) got along very well and kept going outside and seemed to almost be whispering or something. Really understood each other there.
Whenever the INFp tried to talk to me, I really tried so hard but couldn't seem to wrap my mind around his thoughts, and when I could I usually disagreed w/ him. However, the other INFp I tend to agree with easily, so may be a personality difference.
I didn't even realize the ISTp was there really and assumed he was ISFj until we actually figured out what everyone was. I was surprised at how I completely had no social interest in him, since I'm always on the look-out for ISTp friends, and here is one right in the same room and I didn't even notice! Duh!!!
But then we played a game and he helped me figure out a math part (of course w/o even stopping to make me feel like an idiot -- which we've all discussed as being an additional cool thing about ISTPs! I was having trouble w/ just about every mechanical details, such as shuffling cards, etc, and he either just did it himself or acted like it was no big deal. Meanwhile, the other ENFp is saying "omg I have so much trouble w/ that too!"
After playing this game, I was like "wow!" And at that point his personality really stood out to me. So perhaps the ENFp/ISTp isn't so much a spoken thing. I can't figure out how these duals met though, because this ISTp is nearly silent and the ENFp girl isn't overly talkative until she feels comfortable.
All in all, I was surprised how well Delta and Beta got along! I guess I shouldn't have been, but on the forum it can seem like the quadras are SO different and it was nice to see everyone just get along so well and have fun!
Anyone else have beta/delta stories or anything?
Oh, and one more thing about the ISTp...my first thought when trying to type him was "you're difficult." And everyone laughed and said they agreed, that he was difficult! And I said "oh no! I meant, difficult to type!" Where as, the INFp, I hadn't even asked him any questions when I said I thought he was an INFp and when I described it he completely agreed, so maybe it's more difficult to type your own dual?