Type Person A
"A: i am kinda neutral to that mentality I guess"
"B: what mentality? helping people?"
"B: yeah, i can see that
- i was just going to say that
- for you it is about the people you love
- and care about
- and helping them in a diff way
- more practically...i guess
- i think it all stems from you being protective about the people you love...and wanting to stand up for them, etc
- like i dont think you could so much identify or care for humans in general...it's not so global for you...although deep down there is empathy there, you concentrate that around people you are close to, IMO
- and you would show this in more physical ways, i think
- not by trying to understand others and sympathize...but if someone hurts someone you love, you'll be the first to stand up for them
- or even more physically than that...by helping them with things like moving or figure out what's wrong with their computer or things like that
- i also think you need a lot of validation and support from the people you love...this means the world to you (we've talked about this before)
- you need them to show you that they appreciate and care about the things you do for them
- and not in a showy way....
- but by accepting your help and your input
- that makes you feel valued
- and you're a very loyal person... to those you are close to and therefore expect the same in return
- and i think you have been disappointed in this regard many times before
- it's like you've gotten to the point that you're so disappointed with everyone that it has made you doubt the validity of your values and expectations...you've probably questioned why things like this affect you so much and have tried to emotionally block yourself from being so hurt by them.
- and past experience has lead you to believe that one way or another people will always let you down
- so, it makes it hard to fully open up to someone because your expectation of this is so strong that you think you'll always end up being hurt, and disappointed
- but deep down you want to be able to open up and let someone in completely... i think this is such a big need that it seems unbearable sometimes. it's like a catch 22 (you want this but you protect yourself from it at the same time)
- and you don't know if you'll ever feel safe enough to be able to do it
- i think you will though
- and then you'll know the satisfaction of loving someone and being loved back
- and this person will value all these things within you and will feel very lucky that you are able to share this together
- and you need to be able to trust them... which would make you feel safe enough to do this..."