Share your experiences with ISTp's.
Your experiences with ISTps
Share your experiences with ISTp's.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Originally Posted by Gilly
It occurred to me last night that my best friend is probably ISTp. So you could say my experiences are excellent.
ILE
7w8 so/sp
Very busy with work. Only kind of around.
I'm pretty sure a guy I've known online for several years now is SLI. We both have the same sort of wacky sense of humour, which is cool, and we share our various experiences openly with eachother. Now and again we'll initiate a conversation and then both fall silent for a while, if neither of us really have anything to say. We're different in more subtle ways (Ni vs. Si base mainly) but that doesn't really get in the way. I've got a lot of respect for him really. Whether things would be different if we knew eachother IRL, I don't know, but online he's one of the best friends I have. I don't know any other SLIs IRL so I don't know if it would be the same with others or not. Oh well. SLIs ftw, says I.
ILI (Indescribable Lovemaking Inc.)
5w4 so/sx
"IP temperament! Because today's concerns are tomorrow's indifferences!"
Lord Fnorgle's Domain - A slowly growing collection of music, poetry and literature.
Stickam music performances
Really ? Super-Ego relations, esper?
Wow, that sounds surprisingly like my own experiences with a suspect-SLI. We have been best friends since we were babies.
I actually like the SLIs on the forum quite a bit -- granted that they ARE actually SLIs? LokiVanguard and jessica129 are really cool to me... Winterpark I think I've had a couple of issues with ? I don't even remember, and oh, if heath is an SLI, we do conflict, yes.
In real life, I haven't had any close relations to SLIs and that probably makes perfect sense being as that I am their total opposite. There was one SLI girl though, that now despises me. She is a huge grudge-holder though, and I don't think she took myjoking very well - took it to heart. However, she has fallen out with a great many of her "friends" that she used to have so it could just be an individual thing.
Aww, yeah, that is what I love about people within my own quadra, especially Duals and Activators. Conflicts are so short-lived and even when they are pretty bad in the moment, a hug will fix everything the next day! It's weird, I can't stay mad, and we just get each other.Yeah I have only had bad relations with people when they were pretty unhealthy themselves. Except for with unhealthy people who were also superego/conflictors it added in the problem that I couldn't just say, "Hey, I didn't mean it that way," *smile,* *hug,* and it be accepted. Only time could heal it between us, and I knew if I said anything directly it would mess it up, so I've always been very careful.
Me
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
Heh... I don't like em. Too hard to understand
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
Good experiences with ISTps IRL, just yesterday I went to the birthday party of a SLI friend of mine I often train with, too. Cool guy, very pratical but also smart, and quite extraverted too.
I don't get along with him only when he tries to tell me what to do on some "Te" matter (ex. when he tries to convince me to vote for a given political party, etc etc), we both can be rather stubborn about these matters; in the end we just avoid talking about it so there's no problem.
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
Okay, esper & glamourama, I'll trade you some betas for some deltas. I have more betas in my life than you can shake a stick at. But I'm withholding the SLEs til you send me some SLIs...
Hm, my experiences with SLIs... good. I recently discovered that someone I've known for 8 years is SLI, and we've spent a shocking amount of time together and not had a conversation longer than 10 minutes. Despite this, it's amazing how well we got along once we actually started talking... haha We have more in common than I thought we did, and she's quite pleasant to be around. I think I've known others in the past, but we've never been in exactly the same circles... definitely helps to have similar interests...
I'm up for some Delta/Beta trading too! Let me know the time, place, location and I'll be there. Do we have a deal?
gay sex
Last edited by istpunk; 07-17-2008 at 08:25 AM.
I just realized the other day I'm working with another ISTp. I really enjoy him. Quiet, but has moments where he likes to talk. The talk can be small talk, or it can be something serious. Has a tendency to broach very Ne-like topics/ideas, and loves strange music like me. Very chill. If I come across that way to people, I'd be happy for it.
SLI/ISTp -- Te subtype
Ya do.
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
Cool man, but I really couldn't care less for your opinion.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Please do mention specifics... It would be cool to hear how you've noticed this about SLIs.
How? Haha. Juju and I are pulling teeth here.
This is how it usually goes. We get drunk and we start saying things out loud like "Gimme some Fi", "Can I have some more Fi" or "Gimme Fi or die". And if we don't get enough Fi we give you the silent treatment, or the middle finger.How? Haha. Juju and I are pulling teeth here.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Bullies!
The one's in bold I've done. But then again, I WAS drunk
And winterpark is 100% correct.
We are the world's bullies.
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
Now, is that something to be bragging about?!The one's in bold I've done. But then again, I WAS drunk
And winterpark is 100% correct.
We are the world's bullies.
Bragging?? Who's bragging? I'm just stating cold, hard facts.
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
Cold, hard facts about being cold and hard. Gotcha.
It's our way.
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
...or the highway?
I've done none of those things. Ever.
LIAR!
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Nah, no amount of alcohol or other substances could get me to act like that.
i like SLIs. we get along pretty well.
just that occasionally, we'll both not talk, and things get quiet, but it's not an uncomfortable silence.
they're pretty much like me imo, i see many similarities. [=
INTp
sx/sp
When I'm drunk I have a tendency to wander off and try to climb buildings. I've learned to suppress this in the last few years ... so now I just kick everyone's ass at pool. Last Saturday I played four friends, beat them each twice, announced that I was letting other people play, and then was cajoled into playing one more game, which I also won (I did, admittedly, meet my billiards match when cracka visited).
I also dance around the pool table to the jukebox music. If I'm not doing a sort-of dance, I have a tendency to do this stalking-in-the-jungle kind of thing where I follow the cue ball around the table and line up my next shot almost before the balls have come back to rest. People have variously laughed at that and admitted that it's intimidating.
Sometimes I can get chatty when inebriated, but usually I get quiet. I've totally fucked up telling jokes way too many times, and when trying to make Te-style points I have a tendency not so much to slur words as get them out of order. And nobody wants a drunk yoda talking to them about (for example) the modern economic effects in the South stemming from the Reconstruction following the Civil War - especially at the bar!
SLI
pure love.
I have a SLI mom, brother, boyfriend, old time gal pal, and a best bud. I could litteraly go on and on. But i can't seem to concentrate today. Sorry pointless post
but remember SLI's: PURE LOVE!heh heh
n00bIEE
wow!! no wonder you're not on here that often!pure love.
I have a SLI mom, brother, boyfriend, old time gal pal, and a best bud. I could litteraly go on and on. But i can't seem to concentrate today. Sorry pointless post
but remember SLI's: PURE LOVE!
LUCKY!
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
Well, I like your avatar and can honestly say, I wish the same for you (well maybe except the mom and brother. At this stage of life that one might be a bit difficult to achieve)
and yeah, I am lucky, and greatful too, so I hope that makes it OK
n00bIEE
I dated an SLI for two years. It was a really great relationship, but I had to break up with him because he rather suddenly became an alcoholic. Since then, he's done AA, apologized to me for everything, and said he still loves me.
I think my favorite memories were from one summer, when we would jump the fence at this park on the river. We would swim in this beautiful area with huge rocks and lovely foliage where we weren't supposed to be. It felt really freeing.
I had two SLI roomates.
The first one was kind of messy but not too bad. He walked really slow and sometimes that would bother me. He was late a lot and wasn't usually too concerned about it. I remember he and I spent a lot of time hanging out one day and between waiting for him to get ready or for other things and his slow walking he literally wasted an entire two hours of my day lol. I liked hanging out with him and we got along pretty well.
The second one was realllly messy. Clothes all over the room, left empty soda cans all over, would leave dishes on the counters and fill up the sink, leave stuff on the stove top for days. He and I got into some major fights over dishes and kitchen a couple times to the point where I was yelling and cursing, which I don't do very often. He just had no concept of being respectful or cleaning up after himself. He was also kind of close minded and judgmental. He never changed his mind about anything even if you bested him in an argument and sometimes he would say some really judgmental things about people. I enjoyed hanging out with him but I needed more space from him than the other SLI.
“No psychologist should pretend to understand what he does not understand... Only fools and charlatans know everything and understand nothing.” -Anton Chekhov
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I dated an SLI in high school and currently have an SLI friend (in addition to being reacquainted with aforementioned SLI boyfriend, as a friend now). They both love and own multiple motorcycles and enjoy working on them. They do speak quietly. One is so quiet I could barely hear him on the phone. They're both loners and each have had two failed marriages and ADORE their children. They both have talked about wanting a boat. heh. One is more educated, enjoys fine wine and dabbles in art and literature. The other one seems content to work more with his hands and prefers basic beer. They can be kind of formal with their interactions especially when they're not sure where they stand. Good guys.
IEI-Fe 4w3
I was raised by an SLI. I always considered her quite logical (compared to my IEE dad). We have good communication and I help her in the kitchen. She is always late, which is a bad thing since she is sometimes my transportation. Even when she gets ready on time, she keeps finding litle things to do before she can leave, like getting a granola bar and finding an ice box to put the granola bar in and refilling the ice so the granola bar doesn't thaw before she eats it for breakfast. I'm exagerating a bit, but that's the sort of logical irrational stuff she does.
The first ISTp I remember was in my Japanese class. I think he was on UCSB's football team or something, but he definitely had that really laid-back, monotonous ISTp demeanor. I never interacted with him all that much because I never had a real reason to, but he's a cool guy from what I reckon.
My current best friend here is Te-ISTp. We never talked too much when we were roommates two years ago (I was depressed at the time and didn't feel like talking to anybody anyways), but nowadays we talk pretty regularly. We share a lot of the same classes, being Japanese majors, and we talk really easily with each other.
But then I met this Si-ISTp 9w1 sp/sx girl in my study-abroad group, and oh man did I have a serious crush on her. She was really soft-spoken and unobtrusive, but very smart in a way that nobody would really expect her to be. People often teased her for being so quiet and "cute," but I had the respect for her to not say anything like that. I think our combined boringness balanced each other out and we got along really well, even though we never had the opportunity to interact that much. She was always hanging out with the other girls and I was hanging out with the guys, so it's like we were in two different worlds. But I always had my eye on her, kinda imagining how I would approach her if I was interested in girls haha.
Here's a description of my brother who is an ISTp/SLI:
He works for the company redbox. His job is to tell the technicians that call what the problem with the redbox is and how to fix it. He likes his job a lot. He loves to play poker and is a very aggressive player. He plays with some friends every week. One time he and I went with my mom to a casino and he blew $300 gambling. A few months later, I asked him why he didn't call it quits sooner at the casino and he said that he felt like he had to impress my mom and me. He is a big sports fan and is always doing his fantasy football/baseball stuff. I think he gambles with that, too. He gets really mad when his team loses. He'll say something like, "Jeez! What the crap?! (sigh) Whatever... This is bull." He's always been somewhat of a sore loser. When we were kids, I remember a time that he cried when my little brother beat him in bowling. He doesn't show his disappointment like that now, though. It's usually just a "whatever" followed by a sigh and an annoyed face. He loves eating competitions. He loves eating in general. In high school, he finished in the top ten of his class. He was great at math, good at science, decent in English. He was never an artistic, creative person. Before he lived on his own, his room wasn't spick and span, but things were put away. Now, his place is really messy. He tends to date big girls with big boobs. There was a time when he was jobless for a year. He kept on looking for an IT job like he had before, but no one was hiring. It took him several months just to consider a job other than IT. I found out later that not working really took a toll on his self-esteem and he was depressed for a while. He seems to take him a long time to tell me or my mom how he's actually feeling. About a year ago, I made him mad when I got really drunk and told his girlfriend at the time some really embarrassing things about him (none of which I remember), and he didn't tell me how he felt until a month later. He was over it by then, though. It's really hard for him to accept help from other people and he rarely asks for it. I guess it's a pride thing for him. He likes to listen to music from the 90s but he still keeps up with newer music too. In high school, he would always wear shorts and a t-shirt to school even if it was snowing outside. Sometimes, I would look over at him shivering but he would deny being cold. Growing up, there would be times when he and I would stay up really late at night just talking. For the most part, we get along pretty well.
My husband is quiet, shows very little emotion on his face, and speaks in as few words as possible. Sometimes this makes me think he is upset with me, and I'll ask him, and he'll act like it's odd I would think he's upset. If he actually is upset, he goes into the garage and tinkers around until he feels better. He sometimes is happy and kind of jovial-ish, but not often, and it always seems weird when it happens. He likes to whistle when he's in a good mood, and usually that's the only outward sign.
He does like to sleep in, and nap, and he is very picky about food. Not about what types of food he'll eat or the recipes, but he has a sharp sense of taste and if the ingredients aren't good he'll be able to tell. Like I get organic local chicken, and one time I was in a hurry and got just regular chicken breasts, and he took a bite and said there was something wrong with the chicken and he was unable to eat anymore, so he got something out of the freezer to heat up. Which was probably made of cheap ingredients. I don't get why he can eat regular chicken if we go out but will only eat organic chicken if we're home. There is some inconsistency.
He is a good worker but only on his own schedule. His pace is slow and deliberate, but he does seem to get stuff done, and well. The key is that he won't do stuff when you ask him to do it. You have to say, "I'd like this done, but it doesn't matter when" and then just relax about it. If you try to push him to do something, he gets resistant and then doesn't want to do it at all. The best way to get him to do something when you want it done is to try to fix it yourself. He can't help watching me try to fix something and he can't help taking over. He gets annoyed by things that are poorly made or that don't work properly. Also, when he makes stuff or fixes stuff, he likes to show me and have me tell him how awesome it is. LOL.
He is also very cheap, and some kinds of expenses bother him more than others. Like if I get money from an ATM that charges us a service fee, he will go on and on about that $2 for ages. On the other hand, I once accidentally dropped a $20 bill on a windy day and it got away from me, and I was upset with myself, but he just laughed and said it was no big deal. "Easy come, easy go." And that it wasn't that much money. But it was 10 times as much as the service fee. Again, not consistent.
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